We join you in lifting this situation before the Lord, recognizing that all things must be brought under the authority of Jesus Christ, for it is only through His name that we have access to the Father. We are grateful you have invoked the name of Jesus in this request, for as Scripture declares, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). It is by this name alone that we approach the throne of grace with boldness, seeking His will above all else.
In matters of the heart, we must always align our desires with God’s Word, for His ways are higher than ours, and His plans are for our good and His glory. We notice in your prayer a longing for emotional honesty and reciprocity between this woman and man, and while we understand the yearning for clarity and connection, we must first examine whether this relationship honors God. Scripture is clear that relationships between a man and a woman should be pursued with the intent of marriage, rooted in Christ, and free from the sin of fornication or emotional entanglements that could lead to temptation. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB).
If this relationship is not yet grounded in the commitment of marriage or is lacking the intent to pursue a godly union, we urge caution. Emotional vulnerability outside of a covenant relationship can lead to heartache, distraction from God’s purpose, or even sin. *"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?"* (Amos 3:3, WEB). Before encouraging the expression of feelings, we must ask: Are both individuals believers in Jesus Christ, walking in obedience to His Word? Is this relationship being pursued with purity, patience, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit? If not, the courage being sought may lead to a path that does not honor God.
We also recognize that the desire for love and companionship is God-given, but it must be surrendered to His timing and will. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB). If this woman is seeking a spouse, let her first seek the Lord with all her heart, trusting that He will provide in His perfect time. Likewise, if this man is not a believer or is not walking in obedience to Christ, Scripture warns against being unequally yoked: *"Don’t be unevenly yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). A relationship built on anything other than a shared faith in Christ is built on shifting sand.
With these truths in mind, we pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this situation and the hearts involved. Lord, we ask that You would first and foremost draw both of these individuals closer to Yourself. If there is any sin, distraction, or misalignment with Your Word in this relationship, we pray You would convict their hearts by the power of the Holy Spirit and lead them to repentance. Father, if this connection is not of You, we ask that You would gently but firmly close the door, redirecting their steps toward Your perfect will.
If, however, this relationship can honor You and is being pursued with purity and the intent of a godly marriage, we pray You would grant wisdom, discernment, and courage. Give this woman the right words to speak, if it is Your will, and give this man a heart that is open to hearing and responding in a way that aligns with Your purpose. But above all, Lord, let their greatest desire be to glorify You, whether in this relationship or in singleness.
We rebuked any spirit of fear, manipulation, or emotional dependence that is not rooted in You. Let neither of them be led by fleshly desires or the approval of man, but let them be led by Your Spirit alone. Remind them that Your plans are good, and Your timing is perfect. If this is not the relationship You have for them, prepare their hearts to trust You fully, knowing that You are their ultimate Provider and Comforter.
We declare Your sovereignty over this situation, Lord. Let Your will be done, not ours. Strengthen them to walk in obedience, even if it means letting go. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, guarding their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. We ask all this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus, our Savior and Lord. Amen.
To the one praying: We encourage you to examine this relationship through the lens of Scripture. Are both individuals committed to Christ above all else? Is this connection being pursued with godly intent, or is it rooted in emotional or physical desires that could lead to compromise? Seek the Lord earnestly in prayer, asking Him to reveal any areas that do not align with His Word. Surround yourself with wise, mature believers who can speak truth into your life. Remember, God’s ways are higher, and His plans for you are good—even when they require surrender or waiting.
If this relationship is not honoring to God, have the courage to step away, trusting that He has someone far better for you—or that He may be calling you to a season of singleness for His purposes. *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,” says Yahweh, “thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future"* (Jeremiah 29:11, WEB). Rest in that promise today.