We hear the deep pain and longing in your heart, and we come before the Lord with you, lifting every burden to Him. Your feelings of loneliness, jealousy, and inadequacy are not unseen by God. He knows the weight you carry, the tears you’ve shed, and the desires of your heart. We want to remind you that you are deeply loved by the Father, who formed you in your mother’s womb (Psalm 139:13-14) and has a purpose for your life that no one else can fulfill. The enemy would love to keep you in despair, but we stand in agreement with you, declaring that God has not forgotten you and that His plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11).
First, we must address the jealousy you feel toward those who have children or seem to have lives that feel out of reach for you. The Bible warns us about the dangers of envy, as it can poison the heart and lead to bitterness. Proverbs 14:30 says, *"A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot."* We rebuke the spirit of jealousy in your life in the name of Jesus. Instead of comparing your journey to others, we pray that God would help you to trust in His timing and His perfect plan for you. Your worth is not defined by whether you are married, have children, or fit into societal expectations. Your worth is found in Christ alone, who loved you so much that He gave His life for you (John 3:16). We pray that you would find your identity in Him and that He would fill the emptiness in your heart with His love and peace.
You mentioned feeling undesirable and unloved, and we want to remind you that God sees you as His beloved daughter. Isaiah 62:4 says, *"You shall no more be termed Forsaken, and your land shall no more be termed Desolate, but you shall be called My Delight Is in Her, and your land Married; for the Lord delights in you."* You are not forgotten, and you are not alone. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He collects every one of your tears in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). We pray that you would experience His presence in a tangible way, that you would know deep in your spirit that He delights in you and calls you His own.
We also lift up your grandma to the Lord, as she is clearly a precious gift in your life. We pray for her healing and strength, and we ask that God would give you the grace and ability to care for her with love and patience. Philippians 4:19 reminds us, *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."* We trust that God will provide for both of your needs—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. If there are practical needs in your home, such as heating or repairs, we pray that God would open doors for provision and that He would send help in ways you cannot even imagine.
You expressed frustration and hurt regarding a man you referenced, and we want to gently address this with biblical truth. If this man is not your husband, we must caution you against placing your hope in a relationship that is not bound by the covenant of marriage. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred union between one man and one woman, and it is meant to reflect Christ’s love for the church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If this man is not your husband, we encourage you to guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23) and seek the Lord’s will for your life rather than placing your happiness in the hands of someone who may not be committed to you. If he *is* your husband, we pray that God would soften his heart and help him to step up as a godly leader in your home. However, we must also remind you that your worth is not tied to his actions or lack thereof. You are a daughter of the King, and your value comes from Him alone.
We also want to address the mention of autism and Asperger’s syndrome. While we understand that these conditions can present challenges, we believe in God’s power to heal and restore. We pray for healing for all who struggle with these conditions, but we also recognize that God can use every circumstance for His glory (Romans 8:28). If this man is your husband, we pray that God would give you both wisdom, patience, and grace to navigate your relationship in a way that honors Him.
Your request did not explicitly mention the name of Jesus, but we want to remind you that it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. John 14:6 says, *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.'"* Salvation is found in no one else (Acts 4:12), and it is by grace through faith in Jesus Christ that we are saved (Ephesians 2:8-9). If you have not already, we encourage you to surrender your life to Him, trusting in His sacrifice on the cross for your sins and inviting Him to be the Lord of your life.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious daughter to You. Lord, You see her pain, her loneliness, and her longing for love and acceptance. We ask that You would wrap Your arms around her and remind her that she is deeply loved by You. Heal the wounds in her heart, Lord, and replace her feelings of inadequacy with the truth of who she is in Christ. Help her to see herself through Your eyes—as Your beloved child, fearfully and wonderfully made.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of jealousy and envy in her life. Fill her heart with contentment and trust in Your perfect timing. Help her to find joy in the blessings of others rather than comparing her life to theirs. Lord, we pray for her grandma, that You would strengthen and heal her. Give this dear one the grace to care for her grandma with love and patience, and provide for all their needs—physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
If there is a man in her life who is not her husband, we ask that You would guard her heart and help her to seek Your will above all else. If he is her husband, we pray that You would soften his heart and help him to lead their home in a way that honors You. Lord, we also pray for healing for all who struggle with autism and Asperger’s syndrome, that You would bring comfort, understanding, and breakthrough.
Father, we ask that You would surprise her with Your goodness. Open doors of provision, bring godly friendships into her life, and let her experience Your presence in a tangible way. Heal her body, Lord, and restore her strength. Most of all, we pray that she would know You more deeply and that her identity would be rooted in Christ alone.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved. Thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayer and for Your faithfulness to answer. We trust in You, and we declare that Your plans for her are good. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
