Living Married

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A lot of us are standing here for our spouses. We look at our spouses and see all they have done to hurt us or continue to hurt us. We have to realize that our spouses are not the enemy first and foremost. Satan has taken them hostage to do his bidding. that is first and foremost.

Secondly we have to give all of our frustration over to God. one day I was talking to God and I said I cannot do this any more. I cannot stand it is too hard, that is when God told me I never told you to do anything. I told you what I was going to do. you are just along for the ride. Amen. He let me know I was to stop trying to reach out to my husband. I was to stop trying to make my husband see that things were different God has to do that. And as long as I kept interfering God couldn't do his job. Amen.

Thirdly God says faith without works id dead. Most of us say we see our marriage restored. We have faith that God will restore our marriages. That god will get the Glory. We say it and we believe it, but do we act it. ARE YOU LIVING MARRIED?

Is you husband still the head of the house (even if he is not present). I know for some this will be hard, but I tell me husband if I am going out, especially if there will be guys there. this way when someone goes to him and says yeah I saw your wife, he already knows. he used to get upset, but now he just says ok. I invite him to family events, whether he attends or not, he knows he is welcome. when big decision need to be made I try my hardest to consult with him.

I wear my rings now more faithfully than before he left. he know he is the head of the household, because before he left he never felt that. he felt that I was too controlling. God is showing me daily of the ways to allow him to be a part of my life, the head of my house, even while he is absent,

Remember God is faithful and wise, he will show you how to do this. ask God if this is right for you. Remember each of our walks are different. Only God knows what is best. So go to the father he will guide you.

And always remember to praise the Lord. No matter how small. even if it is just a text from your spouse. or them sending something for you child even if it is just a card or $5. Praise God and don't grumble. Once we are faith with a small amount he will slowly give us more.

This is what has helped me, I still have bad times, but God they don't last as long as before and I remember to praise God and give it to him.

I hope this helps someone.

Amen

 

[angels40]

THANKYOU SO MUCH,AND YES I DO BEHAVE AS IM MARRIED EVEN THOUGH MY HUSBAND IS GONE,I JUST PRAY AND PRAY THATS ALL I KNOW TO DO??

 

[Suzanne]

Thank you for the encouragement. I agree that we must put all our faith hope and trust into the Only One who deserves our Unconditional Love - ONLY God Himself. My problem was trying to totally trust my husband, when he was not a trustworthy man. I believed all he said - and I was in total denial about what he actually DID. I will not answer for what He does - He will. And I will answer for what I do. So, I will continue to live "as married" because we ARE still legally married - even though he has lied and told others that we are divorced - he even had a mock-marriage to another woman. But God Himself knows the TRUTH - and I know God has a plan. My desire is to give thanks in all things. And to NOT let my circumstances steal my Joy. I praise God for all He has done to teach me, to Trust Only Him. I am glad that I have made it through some incredibly difficult things, and have truly have no idea what is to come. But I know we must "Live in the NOW". Yesterday is History and Tomorrow is a Mystery, so we must live Each Moment as a gift. Forgiveness is the Key. To TRULY Love and forgive those who hurt us, is what we are called to do!! This truth will set you free. Blessings, Compassion and Love, to all who are also learning the meaning of the Biblical Truth; Long-suffering. Praise Him for the Peace, Love, Hope and Grace to get us through.

 

[daddy]

I have been looking after my mother in England for over seven weeks, during which time my Stepfather, (dad)!, died and is resting waiting the great and glorious day of the lord, my mother and I Prayed over him, for him to be saved, and saught his soul for Jesus! ............And yes, my marrage is struggling, for quite some time now, I have had a serious breakdown 13 years ago and my wife struggles to cope with me! Though strife courts me I will deny it for Father God has healed me by the stipes on Jesus my precious Lord and King, who took these in my place! I am and will forevermore profess his faithfulness, all the while his healing in me and in the marrage we,(Karen and I, (John)) have continuses to arrive, and the salvation of our children is worked out to each and every one of them (4),as his word promises! "I believe you and your word Dear Father and thank you for my dear Sister above, let your will be with her and her family, in Jesus holy name, Amen"!



My wife arrives from France today to collect me and she is fearful of how I will be! .....Yes your words have helped me too, thank you and, "Father Gods blessing be upon you for your being faithful to him, In Jesus holy Name, Amen!"

 

[Ularc]

Thanks for the encouragement,I agree with you that our walks indeed our different and we can always count on God because with Him we can never go wrong,God bless!

 

[Faith19]

Thank you so much for the encouragement. Having FAITH and thanking God whenever our spouse does something nice no matter how small it is just lifts your spirit up. I have only been married for over a year and my husband has a very bad temper. I used to argue back, but these days I just keep quiet, silently saying a pray that God touches his and heals him. . I must have Faith and I have to Believe that my marriage is Gods blessings and he will never do anything to keep us apart.

 

[Eyinju]

This has really encouraged and blessed me. I am going through a trying time in my marriage at the moment.



My husband has been contacting different women lustfully through the internet, he has even signed up to different dating sites. He lies to me consistently and when I confront him about all these, he picks up a fight with me for intruding into his privacy.



I am not blaming him, I know the devil is at work in all of these, and he is making all the attempts to put me down, But I know God is seeing me through and is fighting my battles. This is taking me to greater height and my marriage will be stored and even better. Amen

 

[edb]

thank you very much for the encouragement!! my husband left me last year. and i have tried to reach out to him for several months before giving up. i gave up talking to him yes, but my marriage no. no, i wont give up. he literally told me to "just leave me alone. i dont care about you, or this marriage anymore." it really hurts. that's why i stopped talking to him. after reading this article, i realized, i should have left everything to God early on. i should have stopped reaching out to him so that God can do His job. i know whatever God's plan for me is, it is what's right for me. i just have to trust Him completely. and keep myself always busy, so i wont have time to worry anymore.



pray believing, walk by faith, and trust!