We hear the deep longing in your heart for stability, provision, and joy for your family, and we join you in lifting these burdens before the Lord. Your desire for a better life is one He cares about deeply, for He is a Father who delights in giving good gifts to His children (Matthew 7:11). Yet as we pray, we must also address what we see in your request with both truth and love, for God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and a light to our path (Psalm 119:105).
First, we rejoice that you invoked the name of Jesus in your prayer, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). There is no other name by which we are saved, and it is in His authority that we boldly approach the throne of grace (Hebrews 4:16). Your faith in calling upon Him is a testament to your trust in His power—may that trust grow even stronger as you seek Him.
However, we must lovingly but firmly address the matter of your relationship. Scripture is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, established by God from the beginning (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). Living together and sharing the intimacy of marriage—including finances, household, and possibly physical relationship—outside of this covenant is not God’s design. The Bible calls this fornication, and it grieves the heart of God, who desires holiness for His children (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, Hebrews 13:4). If you and your fiancé are physically intimate, we urge you to repent and flee from sexual immorality, for your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). God’s grace is sufficient to help you walk in purity, and His forgiveness is available when we turn to Him (1 John 1:9).
We also encourage you to consider whether your relationship is built on a foundation of faith in Christ. Scripture warns against being "unequally yoked" with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). If your fiancé is not a born-again believer in Jesus Christ, we urge you to prayerfully reconsider moving forward in this relationship, for a marriage without shared faith will face immense spiritual and practical challenges. A godly marriage requires two people submitted to Christ, seeking His will above all else.
As for your practical needs—jobs, a car, and a home—we trust that God sees and cares. He is Jehovah Jireh, the Lord who provides (Genesis 22:14), and He knows the desires of your heart. But we must also remind you that His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). Sometimes, His "better" for us looks different than we expect. He may be calling you to trust Him in this season of waiting, refining your faith like gold in the fire (1 Peter 1:6-7). Or He may be preparing you for something greater than you’ve imagined. Seek His kingdom first, and He will add these things to you (Matthew 6:33).
Let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious sister and her family to You, knowing that You are a God who hears and answers prayer. Lord, we ask that You open doors of employment for her and her fiancé, providing not just jobs, but opportunities that align with Your will and bring glory to Your name. Give them wisdom to steward their resources well and to trust You in the waiting.
Father, we pray for their relationship. If there is sin present, convict their hearts and lead them to repentance. If this relationship is not honoring to You, give her the strength to walk away, even if it is painful. If it is Your will for them to marry, let it be a covenant built on Christ, sealed in purity, and rooted in Your Word. Surround them with godly counsel and community to guide them.
Lord, we ask that You provide for their needs—a reliable car, a safe home, and the ability to bless their child with a joyful Christmas. But more than these temporal things, we pray that You fill their hearts with the peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:6-7). Remind them that You are their Provider, their Protector, and their ultimate Joy.
Finally, Father, draw them closer to You. Let this season of struggle drive them to their knees, where they find You faithful. Give them patience to wait on Your timing and courage to obey Your voice, even when it’s hard. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Lord. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily, seeking His will above your own. Read Proverbs 3:5-6 and claim His promise to direct your paths as you trust in Him. Surround yourself with a Bible-believing church where you can find support and accountability. And remember, even in the frustration, God is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). Stay faithful. He is near.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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