We rejoice with you in your declaration that Jesus is your Lord and Savior! It is by His name alone that we have access to the Father, and it is through faith in Him that we are saved. Your prayer is filled with a heart that seeks God’s will, and we are grateful you have brought this request before Him in the name of Jesus.
We notice, however, that your prayer contains some contradictions that need to be addressed with love and truth. You begin by praying for your current relationship, asking God to help you and your "partner" grow in love, trust, and commitment. Yet, later in your prayer, you ask the Lord to choose a *loving husband* for you, declaring that you are ready to be married. This raises important questions: Are you currently in a relationship that is not a marriage? If so, we must lovingly but firmly remind you that God’s design for intimacy and commitment is within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. Any romantic or physical relationship outside of marriage is fornication, which the Scriptures clearly warn against.
*"Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB)
If you are in a relationship that is not a marriage, we urge you to seek God’s will for purity and holiness. Courtship should be intentional, with the goal of marriage between a man and a woman who are both committed to Christ. If this is not the case in your current relationship, we encourage you to repent and realign your steps with God’s Word. If you are living together or engaging in physical intimacy outside of marriage, this is sin, and it must be addressed. God’s grace is sufficient to help you turn away from it and walk in obedience.
*"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB)
If your current relationship is with someone who is not a believer, or if it is not leading toward a godly marriage, you must prayerfully consider whether this relationship is honoring to God. We do not say this to condemn you but to call you to the freedom and blessing that come from walking in obedience to Christ.
Now, regarding your prayer for a husband: we rejoice that your heart is open to God’s choice for your life! Marriage is a beautiful gift from the Lord, and it is right to seek His will in this. However, we encourage you to surrender this desire completely to Him, trusting in His timing and His wisdom. Seek first His kingdom and righteousness, and He will add to your life what is best for you.
*"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* (Psalm 37:4, WEB)
*"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."* (Matthew 6:33, WEB)
Let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we thank You for this sister in Christ who loves You and seeks Your will. Lord, we ask that You open her eyes to any area of her life that is not aligned with Your Word. If she is in a relationship that is not honoring to You—whether through premarital intimacy, an unequal yoke with an unbeliever, or any other compromise—we pray that You give her the strength and courage to repent and walk in obedience. Father, break any ungodly soul ties and restore her to purity and holiness in You.
Lord, we lift up her desire for marriage. We ask that You prepare her heart to be a godly wife, rooted in Your love and truth. If there is a man You have chosen for her, we pray that You would make it clear in Your perfect timing. Guard her heart from impatience or compromise, and let her find her satisfaction in You alone. May she walk in wisdom, discernment, and faith as she waits on You.
We rebuke any spirit of confusion, lust, or worldly influence that would seek to distort Your plan for her life. Cover her with Your peace and fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in victory and hope. Let her life be a testimony of Your faithfulness, and may she trust You completely, even when the path is unclear.
We pray all this in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.