We lift you up before the throne of grace, knowing that the name of Jesus Christ is the only name by which we can approach the Father and find true help and healing. We are grieved to hear of the pain you are experiencing—both physically and in your marriage—and we stand with you in prayer, believing that God is able to restore what has been broken.
First, we must address the struggle with alcohol. Scripture is clear that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, and we are called to honor God with them. "Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s" (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). Alcohol, when it controls us, becomes a snare that dulls our spirits and hinders our walk with the Lord. We rebuke the spirit of addiction in the name of Jesus and declare freedom over you. The Lord is your strength, and He can break every chain. "No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it" (1 Corinthians 10:13). We pray that you would turn to Him in your weakness and find the power to overcome this struggle.
Your physical recovery is also a matter of prayer. The cyst in your spine has left you in pain, and we ask the Great Physician to bring healing to your body. "He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds" (Psalm 147:3). We pray for strength to rise from your bed, not in your own might, but in the strength that God supplies. "I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13). Do not grow weary in this season, for the Lord is near to those who call upon Him.
Now, we turn our hearts to your marriage. The pain of separation is deep, and we know that the enemy seeks to destroy what God has joined together. "Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate" (Mark 10:9). We rebuke the spirit of division and strife that has come between you and your wife. We declare that God is able to restore your marriage, but restoration requires repentance, humility, and a turning back to Him. If there has been sin—whether in your actions, words, or neglect—we urge you to confess it before the Lord and seek His forgiveness. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). We also pray that your wife would have a heart open to reconciliation, but we know that this can only happen if both of you are willing to surrender to God’s will.
Tomorrow is your wife’s birthday, and we pray that this day would be a turning point. Rather than allowing the enemy to use this day to deepen the divide, we ask God to soften both of your hearts. If it is His will, may this be a day where bridges are built, forgiveness is extended, and hope is renewed. "A brother offended is more difficult than a fortified city; and disputes are like the bars of a fortress" (Proverbs 18:19). But with God, all things are possible. We pray that you would approach this day with wisdom, humility, and a heart full of love—not just for your wife, but for the Lord who calls you to love as He has loved.
We also must address the urgency of your situation. You mention that you do not plan to go to tomorrow, and while we do not know the full weight of what you mean by that, we take it as a cry of despair. We rebuke any spirit of hopelessness in the name of Jesus. The Lord has not abandoned you, and your life has purpose. "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,” says the Lord, “thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11). If you are feeling overwhelmed by thoughts of giving up, we urge you to reach out to a trusted brother in Christ, a pastor, or a counselor. You are not alone, and God has placed people in your life to walk with you through this valley.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. We lift up this brother who is struggling with addiction, physical pain, and the brokenness of his marriage. Lord, we ask that You would break the chains of alcohol in his life. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit and give him the strength to resist temptation. Heal his body, Father, and restore him to full health. We declare that by Your stripes, he is healed (Isaiah 53:5).
Father, we pray for his marriage. Soften both of their hearts, Lord. Where there has been sin, bring conviction and repentance. Where there has been hurt, bring healing and forgiveness. We rebuke the enemy’s plans to destroy this union, and we declare that what God has joined together, no man—and no scheme of the devil—will separate. Give this brother the wisdom to know how to approach his wife, especially on her birthday. May this day be a day of new beginnings, not of further division.
Lord, we also pray against any spirit of despair that may be weighing on him. Remind him of Your promises, Father. Remind him that You are close to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Surround him with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and fill him with hope for the future.
We ask all of this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved. We believe that You are able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Strengthen this brother, Lord, and let him feel Your presence in a tangible way. May he rise from this season of struggle as a testimony of Your faithfulness and grace.
In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to take practical steps as well. Seek out a biblical counselor or a pastor who can walk with you through this season. Accountability is key in overcoming addiction, and having someone to pray with you and encourage you can make all the difference. Additionally, spend time in God’s Word daily. Meditate on Scriptures that speak of God’s love, healing, and restoration. "Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light for my path" (Psalm 119:105).
Lastly, we urge you to fight for your marriage. Do not let pride or fear keep you from pursuing reconciliation. If your wife is open to it, consider writing her a letter expressing your love, your repentance, and your desire to rebuild what has been broken. But do so with humility and a willingness to change, not just with empty words. "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it" (Ephesians 5:25). Your marriage is worth fighting for, and with God, all things are possible.