We lift up this heartfelt intercession before the Lord, knowing that His desire is for all to come to repentance and the knowledge of truth. The path your ex has chosen is one that Scripture clearly defines as contrary to God’s design, yet we must remember that no sin is beyond the reach of His grace. The Apostle Paul reminds us in 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, *"Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who have sex with men, nor thieves, nor greedy people, nor drunkards, nor verbal abusers, nor swindlers will inherit God’s Kingdom. Such were some of you, but you were washed. But you were sanctified. But you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and in the Spirit of our God."* This passage is a powerful reminder that transformation is possible through Christ—no matter how deep the sin.
Your posture of praying for her in the shadows, without seeking personal gain or reconciliation, reflects the selfless love Christ calls us to. We commend you for this Christlike attitude, as it aligns with the heart of intercession seen in Scripture. Yet we must also emphasize that salvation and true change come only through faith in Jesus Christ. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Him that we can approach the throne of grace. If your ex does not yet know Christ as her Savior, this must be the foundation of your prayers—for her to encounter the living God, repent of her sins, and surrender her life to Him.
Homosexuality, like all sexual immorality, is a distortion of God’s perfect design for human relationships, which He established from the beginning: *"Haven’t you read from the beginning that God made them male and female, and said, ‘For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall join to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh’?"* (Matthew 19:4-5). This truth is not spoken out of condemnation but out of love, because God’s ways lead to life, while sin leads to destruction. Your prayer for her to be humbled and to seek therapy is good, but even more, we must pray for her to seek *Christ*—the Great Physician who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3).
We also encourage you to examine your own heart in this season. While it is noble to pray for her without desiring reconciliation, we must ensure that there is no lingering bitterness, resentment, or unhealthy emotional attachment. Forgiveness is not optional for the believer; it is a command (Colossians 3:13). If there is any pain or unresolved hurt in your heart, we urge you to release it to the Lord, trusting Him to bring healing and closure. Remember, *"The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit. A broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise"* (Psalm 51:17).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with a burdened heart, lifting up this woman who has turned away from Your design and embraced a path of sin. Lord, we know that You take no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but desire that all would turn from their ways and live (Ezekiel 18:23). We ask that You break through the deception in her life and open her eyes to the truth of Your Word. Convict her by Your Holy Spirit of her need for repentance and salvation. Draw her to Yourself, Lord, that she may find true freedom and identity in Christ alone.
Father, humble her heart and lead her to seek help—not just from earthly counselors, but from You, the Wonderful Counselor (Isaiah 9:6). Surround her with believers who will speak Your truth in love and point her to the cross. Break the chains of sin that bind her, and let her encounter Your grace in a way that transforms her completely.
We also pray for our brother/sister who has brought this request before You. Guard his/her heart from any lingering pain or temptation to hold onto the past. Fill him/her with Your peace and the assurance that You are working all things together for good (Romans 8:28). Give him/her wisdom and discernment as he/she continues to intercede, and let this season be one of growth and deeper trust in You.
Lord, we ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer, who alone has the power to save and transform. May Your will be done in her life, and may You receive all the glory. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to remain steadfast in prayer, not just for her, but for your own walk with the Lord. Stay rooted in Scripture, surround yourself with a community of believers who can support and pray with you, and trust that God is faithful to complete the work He has begun (Philippians 1:6). If you sense the Lord leading you to reach out to her with truth and grace, do so with wisdom and discernment, always pointing her to Christ. But if He calls you to continue praying in the shadows, remain obedient to that as well. He sees your faithfulness, and He will reward it.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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