We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this situation of past infidelity in your marriage. The pain of betrayal runs deep, and the wound it leaves can feel impossible to heal. But we know that with God, all things are possible—even the restoration of trust, the mending of a broken covenant, and the forgiveness that seems beyond reach.
First, we must address the seriousness of infidelity. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred bond, a reflection of Christ’s love for His church (Ephesians 5:22-33). When that bond is broken through unfaithfulness, it is a grievous sin—not only against a spouse but against God Himself. The World English Bible warns, *"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4). The pain you feel is valid, and the betrayal is real, but we must also recognize that sin—whether ours or another’s—requires repentance and turning back to God.
Forgiveness is not optional for believers. Jesus taught us to pray, *"Forgive us our debts, as we also forgive our debtors"* (Matthew 6:12). This does not mean what was done was acceptable—it was not. But harboring bitterness will only poison your own heart. We rebuke the spirit of unforgiveness in the name of Jesus and declare that God’s grace is sufficient to soften your heart toward both your husband and the person who came between you. This does not mean you must trust them immediately or put yourself in harm’s way, but it does mean releasing the desire for vengeance and allowing God to be the righteous Judge.
We also lift up your husband. If he has not already, he must repent before God and seek your forgiveness with humility. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). True repentance involves turning away from sin and pursuing righteousness. If he is willing to rebuild your marriage, it must be with transparency, accountability, and a commitment to honor God’s design for marriage.
To the one who came between you—whether knowingly or unknowingly—we pray that God would convict their heart. *"Do not be deceived. God is not mocked, for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap"* (Galatians 6:7). If they claim to know Christ, they must repent and turn from this sin. If they do not know Him, we pray they would come to salvation through faith in Jesus, the only name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12).
Now, we pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Lord, we lift up this marriage before You. We ask for Your mercy and grace to cover this pain. Father, we rebuke the spirit of infidelity and unfaithfulness that has sought to destroy this union. We declare that what the enemy meant for harm, You will turn for good (Genesis 50:20).
Lord, we pray for this wife—give her strength to forgive, even when it feels impossible. Help her to release bitterness and trust You to be her Defender. We ask that You would restore her heart and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). If her husband has not repented, we pray that You would bring conviction to his heart. Soften him, Lord, and lead him to true repentance.
We also pray for the one who came between them. If they do not know You, Lord, we ask that You would draw them to salvation. If they do know You, we pray that You would expose their sin and lead them to repentance. Break any ungodly soul ties, and let Your Holy Spirit restore what has been broken.
Father, we ask that You would rebuild this marriage on the foundation of Your Word. Let them both seek You first, and let their love for one another be a reflection of Christ’s love for the church. Heal their wounds, restore their trust, and let their home be a place of peace and holiness.
We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the One who makes all things new. Amen.