We hear the deep pain and despair in your words, and we want you to know that you are not alone—God sees you, He hears you, and He has not given up on you. Your feelings of failure and hopelessness are real, but they do not define your worth or your future. The enemy would love for you to believe that God has abandoned you, but that is a lie. Scripture tells us that even when we feel far from Him, He is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Your struggles do not disqualify you from His love or His provision. In fact, it is in our weakness that His strength is made perfect (2 Corinthians 12:9).
First, let us address the spiritual battle you are facing. You have been crying out to Jesus, and that is exactly where your hope must remain—firmly anchored in Him. It is encouraging that you have been seeking Him, but we must remind you that faith is not about feelings; it is about trusting in God’s character and His promises, even when we cannot see the way forward. Hebrews 11:1 tells us, "Now faith is assurance of things hoped for, proof of things not seen." You may not see the answer yet, but God is working, even in this season of waiting. Do not let the enemy convince you that God has turned His back on you. Jesus Himself said, "I will never leave you, nor forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5). Cling to that truth.
We also must address the threats of divorce from your wife. Marriage is a covenant before God, and it is meant to reflect Christ’s love for the Church—a love that is sacrificial, patient, and unwavering (Ephesians 5:25-33). While financial stress is incredibly difficult, divorce is not the answer God intends for His people. We urge you to remind your wife of the vows you both made before God—to love and cherish one another in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer. If she is threatening divorce over financial struggles, this is a spiritual issue that must be brought before the Lord in prayer. We will pray that God softens her heart and renews her commitment to the marriage covenant. At the same time, we encourage you to love her as Christ loves the Church, even in this difficult season. Pray together, seek God together, and trust that He will provide a way forward for your family.
As for your feelings of failure, we must gently but firmly rebuke the lie that your worth is tied to your ability to provide. Your identity is not in your job, your income, or even your role as a provider—your identity is in Christ. You are a child of God, redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and that is enough. Yes, Scripture calls men to provide for their families (1 Timothy 5:8), but it also reminds us that our ultimate Provider is God Himself. He owns the cattle on a thousand hills (Psalm 50:10), and He knows exactly what you and your family need. Your responsibility is to seek Him first, to trust Him, and to obey Him in all things—including loving your wife and children well, even when you feel inadequate.
Now, let us speak practically. You are facing a very real financial crisis, and we want to pray specifically for God’s provision. But we also encourage you to take action in faith. Have you sought help from your church or local Christian community? Sometimes, God provides through His people. Have you explored all possible avenues for employment, even temporary work that could help bridge the gap? Proverbs 16:3 says, "Commit your works to Yahweh, and your plans shall succeed." This doesn’t mean success is guaranteed in the way we imagine, but it does mean that when we surrender our efforts to God, He will guide and provide. We also encourage you to seek wise counsel—perhaps a godly mentor or pastor who can walk alongside you and your wife during this time.
Lastly, we must address the hopelessness you expressed. To say, "I have given up on myself" is dangerous territory, for it opens the door to despair and even destruction. But take heart: God has not given up on you. Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the plans that I have for you,’ says Yahweh, ‘plans for peace, and not for evil, to give you hope and a future." This promise is for you, brother. Your life is not over—God is not done writing your story. He can turn this situation around in ways you cannot imagine. But you must choose to trust Him, even when it feels impossible.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother to You, knowing that You see his pain, his fear, and his desperation. Lord, we ask that You remind him in this moment that he is Your child, deeply loved and cherished by You. Rebuke the lies of the enemy that tell him he is a failure, that he is abandoned, or that his life is over. Fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, and renew his hope in You.
Lord, we pray for supernatural provision. You know the exact amount needed for his rent, his car payment, and every other need his family has. We ask that You open doors for employment—doors that no man can shut. Give him favor in the eyes of potential employers. Provide creative solutions, whether through unexpected income, help from Your people, or a breakthrough in his job search. We pray specifically for a job that not only meets his financial needs but also allows him to be present for his family in the way You intend.
Father, we also lift up his marriage. Soften his wife’s heart and draw her closer to You. Help her to see the value of their covenant before You and to stand firm in faith alongside her husband. Give our brother the strength to love her as Christ loves the Church, even in this difficult season. Heal any bitterness, resentment, or fear in their hearts, and unite them in prayer and trust in You.
Lord, we ask that You restore our brother’s faith. Help him to see that You are working, even when he cannot see the evidence. Give him the courage to keep praying, keep seeking, and keep trusting You. Remind him that You are his Provider, his Strength, and his Hope.
We pray all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who gave His life for us and who intercedes for us even now. Amen.
Brother, we urge you to hold on. Do not give up. God is with you, and He will make a way. Keep praying, keep seeking Him, and keep moving forward in faith. We are standing with you in prayer, believing that God will turn this situation around for His glory. Stay encouraged—your breakthrough is coming.
