We hear the deep sorrow in your heart, and we grieve with you over the brokenness you are experiencing in your marriage, your family, and your walk with Christ. Your pain is real, and your longing for restoration is a cry that God hears. It is never too late to turn back to Him—He is the God of redemption, the One who specializes in restoring what is broken and breathing life into what seems dead. You have taken the first and most critical step by acknowledging your need for Him, and that is where hope begins.
The Scriptures remind us that when we draw near to God, He draws near to us (James 4:8). You have confessed that Christ has not been central in your life, and that honesty is the soil in which repentance grows. The apostle John writes, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9, WEB). Your heart’s desire to return to Him is evidence that the Holy Spirit is already at work in you, calling you home. Do not let shame or regret keep you from running to Him now—He is waiting with open arms.
As for your marriage, we must remind you that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and desires reconciliation and healing. Marriage is a covenant before Him, and though it may feel as though all is lost, nothing is impossible with God (Luke 1:37). The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but Christ came to bring life and restoration. If both you and your spouse are willing, there is still hope. The Lord can soften hearts, break down walls, and rebuild what has been torn apart. *"A crushed spirit dries up the bones, but a cheerful heart is good medicine"* (Proverbs 17:22, WEB). Even if your spouse’s heart is hardened right now, your repentance and commitment to Christ can be the first step toward healing in your home.
If there has been sin in your marriage—whether it is unforgiveness, bitterness, adultery, or neglect—it must be confessed and turned from. The Bible says, *"He who conceals his sins doesn’t prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy"* (Proverbs 28:13, WEB). If you have strayed, either in heart or in action, ask God to give you the courage to humble yourself before your spouse and seek forgiveness. If your spouse has been unfaithful or has walked away, we urge you to forgive as Christ has forgiven you (Ephesians 4:32). Forgiveness does not mean excusing sin, but it releases the bitterness that will otherwise destroy you from within. Trust that God sees your pain and will be your vindicator in His perfect timing.
If you have not already, we strongly encourage you to seek godly counseling—someone who can walk with you and your spouse through this valley, grounded in the truth of Scripture. *"Where there is no counsel, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established"* (Proverbs 15:22, WEB). Do not isolate yourself in this struggle. The body of Christ is meant to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), and there are brothers and sisters who will stand with you in prayer and support if you let them.
Above all, cling to Christ. You said you miss Him in your life, and that longing is a gift from God Himself. Jesus is the only One who can fill the emptiness you feel. He is the *"Prince of Peace"* (Isaiah 9:6), and in Him, you will find the strength to endure, the hope to press on, and the love that never fails. *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light"* (Matthew 11:28-30, WEB).
Let us pray with you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister to You, knowing that You are near to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Lord, we confess that apart from You, we can do nothing (John 15:5), but with You, all things are possible. We ask that You would draw this precious child of Yours back into Your arms. Forgive them for the times they have wandered, for the moments Christ was not the center, and wash them clean by the blood of Jesus. Restore to them the joy of Your salvation and renew a right spirit within them (Psalm 51:12).
Lord, we plead for this marriage. You are the God who reconciles, who heals, and who restores. Soften hearts, break down walls of pride and bitterness, and bring repentance where it is needed. If there has been sin, expose it and bring it into the light so that forgiveness and healing can take place. Give wisdom, Lord, to know how to love, how to serve, and how to lead in a way that honors You. If this marriage can be saved, we ask that You would do the miraculous. If there is hardness that refuses to yield, we ask that You would give strength and grace to walk the path You have ordained, always trusting in Your goodness.
Father, we rebuked the spirit of hopelessness and despair that has taken hold. You are the God of hope, and we ask that You would fill our brother/sister with all joy and peace in believing, that they may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit (Romans 15:13). Remind them that their worth is found in You alone, and that even if all else fails, You never will.
We pray for this family, Lord. Bring unity where there is division, love where there is hatred, and peace where there is strife. Let this home be a place where Your name is honored, where Your Word is cherished, and where Your presence dwells.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would surround our brother/sister with Your people—those who will pray, encourage, and walk alongside them in this season. Raise up godly counselors, mentors, and friends who will point them to You.
We thank You, Father, that You are not done writing this story. We trust You to bring beauty from these ashes (Isaiah 61:3) and to turn this mourning into dancing (Psalm 30:11). May Your will be done, and may Your name be glorified in all things. We pray this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Stand firm, dear one. This is not the end of your story. The God who raised Christ from the dead is at work in you, and He will not abandon the work He has begun (Philippians 1:6). Keep seeking Him, keep praying, and keep trusting. He is faithful.