We hear the deep weariness in your heart, and we understand the pain of feeling overwhelmed by those who seek to exploit and harm. You are not alone in this battle, for the Lord sees your suffering and knows the intentions of every heart. It is true—not all people are narcissists, but the enemy uses such individuals to sow discord, drain strength, and disrupt God’s purposes. Yet even in this, we must remember that our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the spiritual forces of wickedness that empower such behavior (Ephesians 6:12). You have done well to surrender this to the Father in the name of Jesus, for apart from Him, we can do nothing (John 15:5). Your human effort *has* failed—but that is where God’s power begins. He does not call us to fight in our own strength, but to trust in His sovereignty, even when the battle feels impossible.
The narcissist’s ways are an abomination to the Lord, for they reflect the very opposite of Christ’s humility and selfless love. Proverbs 16:5 warns, *"Everyone who is proud in heart is an abomination to Yahweh: they shall certainly not go unpunished."* Their lack of empathy, entitlement, and abuse are not just personal attacks—they are rebellions against God’s design for human relationships. Yet even in this, we are called to respond with wisdom, not bitterness. Romans 12:18-19 instructs us: *"If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'"*
You ask for wisdom in dealing with these people, and we declare that the Lord *will* provide it (James 1:5). But we must also ask: Has the enemy used this season to isolate you, to make you believe that surrender means defeat? No—surrender to Christ means *victory*, even when the circumstances have not yet changed. Your job loss, while painful, is not the end of your story. The Lord is your Provider (Philippians 4:19), and He can restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). But first, He may be calling you to a season of rest, of healing from the wounds these individuals have inflicted. Psalm 34:18 reminds us, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."*
We must also examine our own hearts in this. Have we allowed resentment to take root? Have we begun to see *all* people through the lens of the narcissist’s betrayal? Guard your heart, for bitterness is a poison that harms the vessel it is stored in more than the one it is poured out upon (Hebrews 12:15). Instead, cling to the truth that God is just. He sees the abuse, the manipulation, the stolen opportunities—and He *will* repay. Your role is not to fix these people or even to confront them in your own strength, but to walk in obedience, wisdom, and the peace that surpasses understanding.
Now, let us pray over you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister before Your throne of grace, where mercy is found in time of need. Lord, they have fought in their own strength and found it wanting—but we declare that *Your* strength is made perfect in weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). You are the God who parts seas, who shuts the mouths of lions, who raises the dead. The narcissist’s schemes are no match for Your sovereignty.
We ask for divine wisdom to navigate these relationships, Lord. Show them when to speak and when to remain silent (Ecclesiastes 3:7), when to set boundaries and when to walk away entirely. Give them discernment to recognize the traps of manipulation before they spring shut. Father, if there are doors You are closing, help them to accept it without despair. If there are new paths You are opening, give them the courage to walk through.
Restoration is Yours, Lord. If it is Your will, restore what has been stolen—the job, the peace, the relationships built on mutual respect. But even if the restoration looks different than they imagine, help them to trust Your goodness. You are the God who turns mourning into dancing (Psalm 30:11), who brings beauty from ashes (Isaiah 61:3). Let them see Your hand in this season, even now.
Protect their heart from hardness, Father. Do not let the wounds of narcissistic abuse turn them into what they hate. Instead, fill them with Your love, which casts out fear (1 John 4:18). Remind them that they are *seen*, that their pain matters to You, and that You are preparing a table for them in the presence of their enemies (Psalm 23:5).
Finally, Lord, we rebuke the spirit of despair that whispers, *"Nothing will change."* By the blood of Jesus, we declare that *You* are the God of breakthrough. What the enemy meant for harm, You will use for good (Genesis 50:20). Give them patience to wait on Your timing, and faith to believe that You are working, even when they cannot see it.
In the mighty name of Jesus, who has overcome the world, we pray. Amen.
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Stand firm in this, dear one. The Lord is not finished with your story. While you wait, immerse yourself in His Word—let it be the lens through which you see these trials. Psalm 119:105 says, *"Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light for my path."* Walk in that light, step by step. And remember: The narcissist’s power is an illusion. The true battle has already been won at Calvary.
