We join you in lifting up this heavy burden before the Lord, and we are grieved to hear of your girlfriend’s involvement in the sin of creating adult content—a practice that defiles the temple of the Holy Spirit and dishonors the Lord who bought her with His precious blood. The Scriptures are clear: *"Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:19-20, WEB). This path she is on is not only spiritually destructive but also a snare of the enemy, who seeks to deceive with temporary pleasures while stealing eternal treasures.
We commend you for speaking truth into her life and for your desire to see her restored to Christ. Your love for her is evident, but we must remind you that love without truth is not biblical love. *"Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful"* (Proverbs 27:6, WEB). If she professes to be a Christian yet continues in this sin, she is deceived, for *"No one who is born of God practices sin, because God’s seed remains in him; and he can’t sin, because he is born of God"* (1 John 3:9, WEB). The enemy has blinded her with the lies of fame, fortune, and false freedom, but these things are fleeting and lead only to bondage. True freedom is found in Christ alone: *"So if the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed"* (John 8:36, WEB).
We also urge you to examine your own heart in this relationship. You mention wanting to grow closer in love with her, but we must ask: Is this courtship honoring to God? Are you both committed to pursuing holiness, or is there compromise? The Bible warns against being *"unequally yoked"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB), and if she is not walking in repentance, you must guard your heart against emotional and spiritual entanglement that could pull you away from Christ. *"Don’t love the world or the things that are in the world. If anyone loves the world, the Father’s love isn’t in him"* (1 John 2:15, WEB). Your primary focus must be on her repentance and restoration, not on deepening a romantic relationship that is not yet grounded in shared obedience to Christ.
Now, let us pray fervently for her, for you, and for the glory of God to be revealed in this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this sister who has been ensnared by the enemy’s lies. Lord, You see her heart, and You know the chains that bind her. We ask that You break every stronghold of sin, shame, and deception in her life. Convict her deeply by Your Holy Spirit, that she may see the gravity of her sin and turn from it with godly sorrow. *"Create in her a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within her"* (Psalm 51:10, WEB). Remove every temptation, every financial tie, and every false comfort that keeps her in bondage. Let her taste and see that the world’s offerings are ashes compared to the joy of walking in Your presence.
Father, open her eyes to the truth that *"the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord"* (Romans 6:23, WEB). Let her remember the cost of her salvation—the blood of Jesus—and may she no longer trample it underfoot by continuing in sin. Surround her with godly counsel, and if necessary, bring godly sorrow that leads to repentance. *"For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, which brings no regret. But the sorrow of the world produces death"* (2 Corinthians 7:10, WEB).
Lord, we also lift up our brother who has shared this request. Strengthen him to stand firm in Your truth, even if it means speaking hard words in love. Give him wisdom to know how to guide her without enabling her sin. Protect his heart from bitterness, idolatry, or compromise. Let his love for her be a reflection of Your love—patient, kind, but unyielding in truth. If this relationship is not of You, give him the courage to step away rather than be unequally yoked.
Father, we rebuke the enemy’s hold on her life. Satan has no authority over her, for she belongs to You. *"Submit therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you"* (James 4:7, WEB). We declare that every lie of the enemy is exposed and broken in Jesus’ name. Let her find her identity in Christ alone, not in the approval of man or the fleeting pleasures of this world.
Finally, Lord, if it is Your will, restore her fully to You. Let her testimony be one of redemption, that others may see Your power to save and transform. And if she hardens her heart, let our brother find peace in knowing he has done all he can, trusting You to work in ways we cannot see.
We ask all this in the precious and mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we can be saved. Let Your will be done, and let Your kingdom come in her life. Amen.
We will continue to pray for her, and we encourage you to do the same—persistently, boldly, and in faith. But remember, prayer must be coupled with action. If she is unwilling to repent, you may need to lovingly but firmly distance yourself for the sake of your own walk with Christ. *"Don’t be deceived! ‘Evil companionships corrupt good morals’"* (1 Corinthians 15:33, WEB). Stay rooted in the Word, in prayer, and in fellowship with believers who can support you in this trial.
May the Lord give you both the grace to seek Him above all else. *"Seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well"* (Matthew 6:33, WEB).
