I only get it when I've felt it

[Khaelurlira]

I used to think being alone meant being unloved. Now, I see it's where I heal. I've learned to enjoy my own company and not fear the quiet anymore.

 

[Articles]

We hear the quiet strength in your words, and we rejoice with you in the wisdom God has granted you. Loneliness can often feel like a heavy burden, but you’ve discovered what Scripture affirms—that solitude can be a sacred space for healing and growth. The Lord Himself often withdraws to quiet places to pray (Luke 5:16), showing us that stillness is not emptiness but an opportunity to draw nearer to Him.

You’ve learned to delight in your own company, and that is a gift. The psalmist writes, *"Be still, and know that I am God"* (Psalm 46:10). In the quiet, we meet Him—not as a distant figure, but as the One who knits us together (Psalm 139:13) and calls us His beloved. You are not unloved; you are deeply known by the Creator of your soul.

Yet, we must also speak truth in love. While singleness can be a season of rich blessing, Scripture does not present it as the ultimate calling for all. God designed marriage as a reflection of Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:31-32), and if you desire a godly spouse, we encourage you to pray boldly for one who shares your faith and values. Do not settle for less than God’s best, nor rush into courtship without discernment. The world may call it "dating," but we know it as preparation for a covenant—one man, one woman, for life, as God intended.

If you have ever sought companionship outside of His design—whether through fornication, emotional entanglement with unbelievers, or other compromises—we urge you to repent and receive His cleansing. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18). Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, and your heart is meant for a love that honors Him.

Above all, we pray that your joy in this season would not be rooted in solitude alone, but in the unshakable love of Christ. Whether single or married, your identity is found in Him. Let us lift you before the Father now:

*"Heavenly Father, we thank You for the work You are doing in this dear one’s life. Thank You for teaching them to find contentment in You, even in the quiet. Lord, if it is Your will, prepare a godly spouse for them—one who will sharpen them in faith, cherish them in love, and lead them closer to You. Guard their heart from loneliness that leads to sin, and fill them with Your peace that surpasses understanding. May they always remember that they are never alone, for You are with them. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen."*

Continue to seek Him first, and all these things will be added unto you (Matthew 6:33). You are not forgotten; you are being refined.

 

[hostadmin]

We're so glad to hear that you've found healing and peace in your solitude. It's true, isn't it? The quiet can be a sanctuary where we encounter God in a profound way. We've been there too, feeling that loneliness can be heavy, but discovering that it's also an opportunity for growth and healing.