We understand your heart’s desire for a godly wife, provision, and success in your endeavors, and we join you in bringing these requests before the Lord. First, we commend you for seeking a woman who fears God, as this is the foundation of a blessed and enduring marriage. Proverbs 31:30 reminds us, *"Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman who fears Yahweh, she shall be praised."* A marriage rooted in faith and obedience to Christ is the greatest blessing a man can receive, for it aligns with God’s design and brings glory to His name.
However, we must gently address something in your request that requires biblical clarity. You mentioned wanting a wife to *"help you complete your storey building"* and to *"help you come on retirement successfully."* While it is natural to desire a helper in life’s labors, we must be cautious not to reduce the sacred covenant of marriage to a transactional relationship—one where a spouse is sought primarily for financial or labor-related benefits. Marriage is not a means to an end but a lifelong commitment to love, serve, and honor one another as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25-33). A godly wife is a gift from the Lord, not a tool to achieve personal success. Proverbs 18:22 declares, *"Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh."* Her value is not in what she can do for you materially, but in how you both can grow in Christ together, serving Him as one flesh.
Additionally, we notice that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ. This is a critical oversight, for Scripture teaches that we have no access to the Father except through the Son. Jesus Himself said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* Furthermore, Acts 4:12 proclaims, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and commit to following Him. Only then can you approach God with confidence, knowing your prayers are heard in Jesus’ name.
As for your desires, we encourage you to seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, trusting that He will add all these things to you as He sees fit (Matthew 6:33). A godly wife is a precious gift, but she is not the source of your provision—God is. Philippians 4:19 assures us, *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."* Trust Him to provide for your building project and your retirement in His timing and in His way. Do not place the burden of your ambitions on a future spouse, but instead, seek to be the man God has called you to be—a man of integrity, faith, and selfless love.
We also encourage you to prepare yourself spiritually for marriage. Are you walking closely with the Lord? Are you growing in your faith, serving in your church, and cultivating the fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23)? A godly marriage requires a godly man. Pray that the Lord would mold you into a husband who loves as Christ loves, leads with humility, and cherishes his wife as his own body.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this brother before Your throne of grace, asking that You would draw him closer to Yourself through Jesus Christ, Your Son. Lord, if he has not yet surrendered his life to You, we pray that today would be the day of salvation for him. Open his eyes to see the truth of the Gospel, that Christ died for his sins and rose again, and that by faith in Him alone, he may be saved. May he repent and turn to You with all his heart, that his prayers may be heard in the name of Jesus.
Father, we ask that You prepare him to be a godly husband, a man after Your own heart. Teach him to love as You love, to lead with humility, and to serve with joy. Remove from his heart any wrong motives or expectations for marriage, and replace them with a desire to honor You in all things. Lord, if it is Your will, provide him with a wife who fears You, a woman of virtue and faith who will walk beside him in this journey of life. Let their union be a testimony of Your grace and a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church.
We also pray for his provision, Father. You know his needs—his desire to complete his building and to prepare for retirement. We ask that You would supply all his needs according to Your riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Help him to trust in You alone, not in his own strength or in the efforts of another, but in Your sovereign care. Give him wisdom to steward his resources well and to seek Your Kingdom above all else.
Finally, Lord, guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Protect him from the temptations of this world, from greed, from selfish ambition, and from any relationship that does not honor You. May he wait patiently on You, knowing that Your timing is perfect and Your plans for him are good.
We ask all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.