We hear the deep longing in your heart—the weariness of feeling distant from God, the ache of unfulfilled desires for marriage and motherhood, the exhaustion of feeling unseen, and the cry for healing and restoration. You are not alone in these struggles, and we want to speak truth and life into your situation, for God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and a light to our path.
First, let us address the most urgent matter: your feeling of separation from God. The enemy loves to whisper lies that God is silent or distant, but Scripture assures us that He is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). If you cannot hear, see, or feel Him, it does not mean He is not there. Faith is not based on feelings but on the unchanging truth of His Word. Jesus promised, *"I will never leave you or forsake you"* (Hebrews 13:5). Draw near to Him, even in the silence, for He is faithful. If you have not been spending time in His Word or in prayer, we gently urge you to return to these disciplines. They are the lifeline that connects us to His presence. Also, we must ask: Do you know Jesus as your Savior? There is no relationship with God apart from faith in Christ, who said, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6). If you have not surrendered your life to Him, we implore you to do so today, for apart from Him, we can do nothing (John 15:5).
Next, we address your desire for marriage and motherhood. These are beautiful, God-given longings, and we pray that the Lord will fulfill them in His perfect timing and way. However, we must also encourage you to seek these things *in His will*. Marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If you are not yet married, we urge you to pursue these desires in a way that honors God—by seeking a godly husband, not just a "partner," and by guarding your heart and body for marriage. Scripture warns against the pain of fornication (1 Corinthians 6:18) and encourages believers to marry *"in the Lord"* (1 Corinthians 7:39). If you are currently in a relationship that is not aligned with these principles—whether emotionally, physically, or spiritually—we lovingly but firmly urge you to repent and realign with God’s design. He wants to bless you, but blessing follows obedience.
You also mentioned feeling undervalued in your current relationship. We do not know the details, but if this relationship is not centered on Christ or if it is causing you to compromise your faith or purity, it is not the relationship God intends for you. A godly marriage should be a place of mutual respect, love, and encouragement (Ephesians 5:21-33). If you are pouring into a relationship that is not honoring to God or is leaving you emotionally drained, it may be time to seek wise counsel and reevaluate whether this relationship is leading you closer to or further from the Lord. You are deeply valued by God—so much so that He sent His Son to die for you (John 3:16). Do not settle for less than His best.
Regarding your desire for femininity and strength, we remind you that true femininity is not defined by the world but by God’s design. A woman of God is *"clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future"* (Proverbs 31:25). Strength is not the absence of weakness but the courage to trust God in it. Ask Him to shape you into the woman He created you to be—one who finds her identity in Him alone. The world may offer counterfeit versions of femininity, but His design is perfect and life-giving.
As for the healing you seek—whether physical, emotional, or spiritual—we pray that the Lord will restore you completely. *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds"* (Psalm 147:3). If there is unconfessed sin, bitterness, or unforgiveness in your heart, we encourage you to bring it before the Lord. Healing often begins with repentance and surrender. *"Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective"* (James 5:16).
Finally, you asked what you need from God. While we cannot speak for Him, we can point you to His Word. You need *Him*—not just His gifts, but His presence, His peace, and His purpose. You need to surrender your timeline to His perfect will, trusting that He knows what is best for you (Proverbs 3:5-6). You need the Holy Spirit to fill you, guide you, and comfort you (John 14:26). And you need the body of Christ—fellow believers who can walk alongside you, encourage you, and hold you accountable.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift this precious sister before Your throne of grace, asking that You would draw her near to You. Lord, if she does not know You as her Savior, we pray that today would be the day of salvation for her. Open her eyes to see You, her ears to hear Your voice, and her heart to feel Your love. Forgive her for any sin that has created distance between You, and cleanse her by the blood of Jesus.
Father, we ask that You would restore her strength and renew her mind. She is weary, Lord—carry her as a shepherd carries his lamb. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made, and that her worth is found in You alone. Break any lies of the enemy that tell her she is unvalued or unseen. You see her, You love her, and You have a plan for her (Jeremiah 29:11).
Lord, we pray for her desire for marriage and motherhood. If it is Your will, prepare a godly husband for her—a man who loves You above all else and will cherish her as Christ loves the Church. Give her patience to wait on Your timing and wisdom to recognize Your leading. If there are relationships in her life that are not honoring to You, Lord, give her the courage to walk away and trust You for something better. Protect her heart and her body for the covenant of marriage.
We pray for healing—physical, emotional, and spiritual. Touch her body, Lord, and restore her strength. Heal any wounds from past hurts or broken relationships. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
Father, she asks for femininity and strength. We pray that You would shape her into a woman after Your own heart—one who is strong in You, gentle in spirit, and radiant with Your love. Clothe her with dignity and purpose.
We also lift up the young person celebrating their 18th birthday. Lord, we ask that You would bless them with a year of growth, protection, and wisdom. Surround them with godly influences and guide their steps. May they seek You first in all things.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would speak clearly to our sister. Give her ears to hear Your voice above all others. Lead her in the way she should go, and let her find her satisfaction in You alone.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
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Sister, we encourage you to spend time in the Psalms, where David often cried out to God in his distress, yet always returned to praise. Read Psalm 13, Psalm 42, and Psalm 139 to remind yourself of God’s nearness. Surround yourself with believers who can pray with you and speak truth into your life. And remember: *"Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). This does not mean He will give you everything you want, but that as you seek Him first, your desires will align with His, and He will fulfill them in ways beyond what you can imagine.
If you are in a place of deep fatigue, we also encourage you to rest in Him. Jesus said, *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28). Sometimes, the first step to hearing God is simply to be still and know that He is God (Psalm 46:10).
We are praying for you, and we trust that the Lord will meet you in this place of longing. Keep seeking Him. He is faithful.
