We hear your heartache and the deep struggle you’re walking through, and we come alongside you in prayer, standing on the truth of God’s Word. First, we want to affirm the courage it took to honor God by ending a relationship that was not aligned with His will. The pain you feel is real, but so is the peace that comes from obedience. The Scripture warns us clearly, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). Your father’s wisdom echoed this truth, and though it brought temporary sorrow, it spared you from far greater heartache down the road.
It’s natural to grieve the loss of what you hoped for—dreams of a future, shared plans, and the love you invested. But we must rebuke the lie that this pain is without purpose. The enemy would love to keep you in a cycle of longing, anxiety, and sleepless nights, but God is using this season to draw you closer to Himself. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). Your tears are not wasted; they are watering the soil of your faith, preparing you for the good things God has ahead.
We must address the hope you still carry for this young man. While it’s commendable that you desire his salvation, we must caution you against allowing that hope to become an idol in your heart. Praying for his soul is right and good—*"The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness; but is patient with us, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance"* (2 Peter 3:9). But we must also surrender the outcome to God. You cannot control whether he comes to faith, and you must guard your heart against the temptation to wait for him indefinitely. *"Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when longing is fulfilled, it is a tree of life"* (Proverbs 13:12). If your hope is tied to his salvation *and* a future with him, it will only bring more pain. Trust God to write your story, even if it looks different than you imagined.
We also must rebuke the lie that this relationship was ever God’s best for you. You mentioned wanting him to be your "first and last man," but the world’s idea of love is not the same as God’s design. Marriage is a sacred covenant between a man and a woman who share the same faith, a union that reflects Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). To settle for less is to invite division into your home, your heart, and your walk with God. The pain you feel now is not because you lost something good—it’s because you’re being freed from something that would have ultimately led you away from God’s perfect will.
Now, we lift you up in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister who is walking through the valley of grief and longing. Lord, You see every tear she has shed, every sleepless night, and every pang of sorrow in her chest. We ask that You would comfort her with the peace that surpasses all understanding, guarding her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Father, we rebuke the spirit of despair that seeks to keep her bound to this past relationship. We declare that her identity is not in what she has lost, but in who You are—her Redeemer, her Healer, and her Hope.
Lord, we pray for this young man’s salvation. You alone can soften his heart and open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel. We ask that You would surround him with believers who can speak life into him, and that Your Holy Spirit would convict him of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8). But Father, we also ask that You would guard our sister’s heart from false hope. If it is not Your will for him to come to faith, give her the strength to release him fully into Your hands. Help her to trust that Your plans for her are good, even when they don’t align with her own desires (Jeremiah 29:11).
We pray for restoration in her body, mind, and spirit. Heal the anxiety that grips her, the insomnia that plagues her, and the sorrow that weighs her down. Renew her strength like the eagle’s (Isaiah 40:31), and fill her with joy that comes from Your presence. Father, we ask that You would redirect her focus toward You. Help her to pour her love into serving You, studying Your Word, and building relationships with fellow believers who will encourage her in her faith. Surround her with godly women who can speak truth into her life and remind her of Your promises.
Lord, we declare that this season of pain is not the end of her story. You are a God who turns ashes into beauty, mourning into joy, and despair into praise (Isaiah 61:3). We ask that You would begin to write a new chapter in her life—one filled with hope, purpose, and the assurance that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28). Give her the courage to move forward, even when the path is unclear, and the faith to believe that You have someone far better prepared for her—someone who will love You first and lead her closer to You.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, who alone can heal our broken hearts and restore our souls. Amen.
In the days ahead, we encourage you to immerse yourself in God’s Word. Meditate on Scriptures that speak of His faithfulness, such as Lamentations 3:22-23, *"It is because of Yahweh’s loving kindnesses that we are not consumed, because his compassion doesn’t fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness."* Spend time in worship, allowing the Holy Spirit to minister to your heart. Seek out fellowship with other believers who can pray with you and hold you accountable. And as you wait on the Lord, ask Him to prepare you for the spouse He has for you—a man who loves God above all else and will cherish you as Christ cherishes the Church.
This season of grief will not last forever. God is using it to refine you, to deepen your dependence on Him, and to prepare you for the blessings He has in store. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the One who endured the cross for the joy set before Him (Hebrews 12:2). The joy set before you is greater than any temporary pain you’re experiencing now. Trust Him. He is faithful.
