We hear the deep pain and hurt in your words, and our hearts ache with you. Breakups are never easy, especially when there has been betrayal, misunderstanding, or mistreatment. It’s clear that you feel deeply wronged, and your emotions are valid—God sees your pain and knows the truth of your heart. The Bible tells us in Psalm 34:18, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not alone in this, and God is close to you, even in your anger and sorrow.
However, we must gently but firmly address a few things in your request that do not align with God’s Word. First, your refusal to forgive is a heavy burden to carry, and it is not what the Lord calls us to do. Jesus teaches us in Matthew 6:14-15, *"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."* Forgiveness is not about excusing the wrong that was done to you; it is about releasing the bitterness and resentment that can poison your own heart. Holding onto unforgiveness will only harm you in the long run, not the other person. We are called to forgive as Christ forgave us—even when it feels impossible.
Second, your words carry a tone of pride and self-righteousness that we must rebuke in love. You say, *"God recognizes that I never lie to people like that because I keep my own truth."* While it is good to stand for truth, we must always examine our own hearts. Proverbs 16:18 warns, *"Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall."* None of us are without sin, and none of us are above needing God’s grace. Even if you were wronged, we must guard our hearts against bitterness and self-justification. Instead, let us humbly ask God to search our hearts and reveal any areas where we may need to grow or repent.
We also want to gently remind you that salvation and access to God come only through Jesus Christ. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not placed your faith in Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so. He is the only way to true healing, forgiveness, and eternal life. Romans 10:9 says, *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."*
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister who has been deeply hurt. Lord, You see her pain, and You know the truth of all that has happened. We ask that You would draw near to her, comfort her, and heal her broken heart. Father, we confess that unforgiveness is not Your will for her life. We ask that You would soften her heart and help her to release this burden of bitterness. Give her the strength to forgive, not because the other person deserves it, but because You have forgiven her so much. Lord, we also ask that You would humble her heart and help her to see herself through Your eyes. Search her heart, reveal any areas of pride or self-righteousness, and help her to walk in humility and grace.
Father, we pray for the young man who has caused this pain. We ask that You would convict his heart and lead him to true repentance. Soften his heart, Lord, and help him to see the wrong he has done. May he seek Your forgiveness and turn away from any sin in his life. We also pray for restoration—whether that is restoration of this relationship under Your guidance or restoration of their individual hearts to walk in Your ways.
Lord, we ask that You would fill this sister with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Help her to trust in You, even when things feel unfair or painful. Remind her that You are her defender and that You will never leave her nor forsake her. Give her wisdom and discernment as she moves forward, and surround her with godly friends and mentors who can speak truth and encouragement into her life.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who bore our sins and our sorrows on the cross. May His love and grace cover this sister and bring healing to her heart. Amen.
Friend, we encourage you to spend time in God’s Word and in prayer. Pour out your heart to Him, but also listen for His voice. Psalm 51 is a beautiful prayer of repentance and restoration—consider praying through it as you seek God’s healing. Surround yourself with believers who can support you and speak truth into your life. And remember, God’s timing is perfect. He will bring beauty from this pain if you allow Him to work in your heart. You are loved, and you are not alone.
