i am recently divorced after a 2 year separation ...

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i am recently divorced after a 2 year separation and 18 years of marriage. the 2 year separation has been a rollercoaster. we have tried to work things out but so far have been unsuccessful. 2 and 1/2 years ago i received a phone call at work(i am an emergency room nurse) telling me that my husband was living with another woman. he had recently moved out but i had no idea. he was definitely not that type of person. we have one child and we were his world. a few months prior to the separation i had started reading this book , The Marriage Prayer. the love that i had for my husband was growing so much deeper, only to have him move out 6 mths later and then to receive that dreaded phone call. i have struggled with why God allowed my love to grow deeper for him to only have this happen, i have just recently realized that he did that so that i could forgive him. he and this woman are sharing a home together and he has finally answered prayers and involved our daughter in his life, i am now struggling with the issue of our daughter being there when this woman is at home, i am severly depressed, confused, angry, etc. i am asking for prayer that i can forgive this woman for what she has done. the thoughts are totally consuming my thoughts, it is like being trapped in a prison, i know that if satan can ever get into our minds that he can overtake us, i am a christin and have had so much faith that God would restore this marriage and that he would help me forgive her but i am beginning to lose my faith. i have asked God that if this family is not to be restored to please help me get over things and move on but so far i cannot. i know that God has already had this go through His Hands and that things will be ok and work out for his glory but i am having such a difficult time. i am angry, bitter, sad. please pray for me, my family, and this relatiionship but mostly for me that i will be at peace, God has been so good to me through this and taught me so much, He has allowed me to be alone for the past 2 and 1/2 years for a reason. i think to help me to understand that he is to be first in my life. it took all of this for me to realize that i was not putting him first and my husband second. now i know but feel that it is too late. please pray for me that i will have wisdom to understand why he allowed me to learn this after my marriage was broken, i know that he does not destroy things that he has put together. please, please pray for us. i listen to you on a daily basis and thank you ever so much for all of the encouraging music and words

 

[lordilookuponu]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[SAMV]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

I am so sorry for your troubles. I pray for the restoration and healing of your marriage. I also pray that you do find the answers as to why, but if you don't, you don't. Sometimes God doesn't let us know until we go home to him. Sometimes we get the answers while we are still here. As far as forgiveness -- You can of course only do this with God's help. Remember too that forgiveness does not mean you go back for more or that you are expected to have all warm, fuzzy feelings for the one who has wronged you. It is an act of will, your will united with God's will to forgive that person. I know what it is like to play the same thing over and over again in my head. Again, you have to pray to stop that. You have to just plain old distract yourself. I hope this helped at least a little bit. I pray for you in the name of Jesus of Nazareth. Amen and amen.

 

[sararib]

I prayed for this in Jesus name. Amen

 

[Totalsalvation]

I pray the peace of God that surpasses all understanding cover you now in Jesus name. The Lord hates divorce. Ask Him what to do. Spend some time fasting and praying and seekin Him for instruction. Be strong my sister and never give up on God!

 

[loreabuch]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

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