We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we stand with you before the throne of grace, lifting your marriage before the Lord. The Scriptures remind us in Ephesians 5:33, "Nevertheless each of you must also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see that she respects her husband." It is clear that respect is a foundational element in marriage, and when it is lacking, it wounds deeply. Your wife’s actions—especially during your time of vulnerability in the hospital—were not only disrespectful but also contrary to the love and honor that God commands in marriage.
We must also gently remind you, brother, that while you seek restoration, you cannot control her heart or her actions. Only God can soften her and bring conviction. In 1 Peter 3:7, husbands are instructed, "You husbands, in the same way, live with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, as also being joint heirs of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered." This means that even in difficulty, we are called to honor our wives, trusting God to work in both of your hearts.
We rebuke the spirit of bitterness, unforgiveness, and division that seeks to destroy your marriage. The enemy desires to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but we declare that God’s will is for healing, restoration, and unity. We also encourage you to seek wise, godly counsel—perhaps from a pastor or Christian marriage counselor—who can help guide you both through this season.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage to You. Lord, You see the pain and the brokenness, and You are the God who heals and restores. We ask that You soften this wife’s heart, that she would see the hurt she has caused and repent before You. Give her a spirit of humility and a desire to honor her husband as You have commanded. Father, we also pray for this husband—that You would strengthen him, fill him with Your peace, and help him to respond in love and wisdom, even when it is difficult. Guard his heart from bitterness and resentment, and help him to forgive as You have forgiven him.
Lord, we declare that this marriage is under Your protection. We break every assignment of the enemy meant to divide them, and we ask that You rebuild trust, communication, and love between them. Help them to seek You together, to lay down their pride, and to walk in the grace and mercy that only You can provide. May their home be a place of peace, respect, and mutual honor, reflecting Your love to the world.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who reconciles and restores. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to continue praying for your wife, not just for her to change, but for God to work in both of your hearts. Seek the Lord for wisdom in how to respond to her with grace, even when it is difficult. Remember, marriage is a covenant before God, and He is faithful to complete the good work He has begun in you both (Philippians 1:6). Stand firm in faith, and trust that God is working even when you cannot see it.
