We hear the deep pain and disappointment in your words, and our hearts ache with you. It is never easy when our expectations of God are not met, especially when we feel He has been silent in our suffering. But we must gently remind you that walking away from Him will never bring the peace or answers you seek. In fact, it will only lead to deeper emptiness, for Jesus Himself said, *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28). He is the only true source of comfort, even when we don’t understand His ways.
You mention that non-believers seem "better" than Christians, and we understand that frustration. The church is made up of imperfect people who often fail to reflect Christ’s love. But their failures do not define Jesus. He remains holy, just, and full of compassion. The apostle Peter once asked Jesus, *"Lord, to whom would we go? You have the words of eternal life"* (John 6:68). Even when we struggle, there is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). Without Jesus, we are lost—no matter how "good" the world may seem for a time.
You also speak of unanswered prayers, and this is a heavy burden. But we must ask: Did you pray according to God’s will, or your own? The Bible tells us, *"This is the confidence which we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us"* (1 John 5:14). Sometimes God’s "no" or "wait" is His mercy in disguise, protecting us from what we cannot yet see. Other times, He uses our struggles to refine our faith, as gold is tested in fire (1 Peter 1:7).
We must also rebuke the lie that it is "OK" to abandon fellowship, Scripture, and prayer. The writer of Hebrews warns, *"Let us consider how to provoke one another to love and good works, not forsaking our own assembling together, as the custom of some is, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching"* (Hebrews 10:24-25). Isolation only makes bitterness grow. Return to the Lord, for He has not abandoned you—even when it feels that way.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our dear brother/sister who is hurting and feels betrayed by You. Lord, we know You are close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and we ask that You would reveal Yourself to them in a powerful way. Soften their heart to receive Your truth, even when it is hard. Forgive them for turning away, and remind them of Your unfailing love. Help them to see that You are working all things for their good (Romans 8:28), even when they cannot see it. Restore their faith, Lord, and draw them back into Your arms. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
We urge you to reconsider your steps. The world will never satisfy the longing in your soul—only Jesus can. Return to Him, not out of obligation, but because He is the only One who can heal your disappointment. We are here to walk with you through this. You are not alone.