We come before the Lord with heavy hearts for you, brother, for your words reveal deep pain, bitterness, and a sense of hopelessness that does not align with the identity and purpose God has for you in Christ. First, we must address the language and mindset you’ve expressed, for it does not reflect the truth of who you are in Jesus. The Lord did not create you to be a "wasteman," nor does He define your worth by the world’s standards—whether it be privilege, passports, or the approval of others. Your value is found in being fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God (Psalm 139:14), redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and called to a life of purpose in Him.
The bitterness you express toward "white privilege" and the resentment you harbor toward those who may have rejected you are dangerous strongholds that will only lead to further bondage. The Bible warns us in Ephesians 4:31-32, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* Bitterness is a poison that harms your soul and hinders your relationship with God and others. We urge you to repent of this mindset and ask the Lord to replace it with His peace, love, and trust in His sovereign plan for your life.
As for the father who rejected you based on worldly standards like a passport, we grieve with you over that pain. Rejection is never easy, but we must remember that our ultimate acceptance comes from Christ alone. In Isaiah 53:3, it says of Jesus, *"He was despised and rejected by men; a man of suffering, and acquainted with disease. He was despised as one from whom men hide their face; and we didn’t respect him."* If our Savior endured rejection for our sake, we too can trust Him in our moments of being overlooked or dismissed. Your identity is not in what others think of you, but in what Christ has done for you.
Now, let us speak truth over you: You are not a wasteman. You are a child of God, called to rise above the world’s shallow measurements of success. The Lord has a plan for you, one that is not limited by human standards or earthly passports. Jeremiah 29:11 declares, *"For I know the plans I have for you,” says Yahweh, “plans for peace, and not for evil, to give you hope and a future."* Your future is not determined by the opinions of others or the circumstances of this world, but by the God who holds all things in His hands.
We also sense a deep need for you to surrender your heart fully to Jesus. If you have not already, we urge you to repent of any sin, bitterness, or unbelief and place your trust in Him alone. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have never confessed Jesus as your Lord and Savior, now is the time. Romans 10:9 says, *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."* Without Christ, there is no true hope or purpose. But in Him, you are made new (2 Corinthians 5:17), and all things are possible.
Lastly, we must address the danger of seeking validation through marriage or relationships as a means of proving your worth. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, not a transaction or a way to gain status. If you are pursuing relationships out of desperation or to meet worldly expectations, you are setting yourself up for heartache. Instead, seek first the Kingdom of God (Matthew 6:33), and trust that He will provide all you need in His timing. If marriage is His will for you, He will bring a godly wife who loves Him first and who will walk with you in faith. But that must never be your source of identity or validation.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother to You, knowing that You see his pain, his bitterness, and his deep sense of rejection. Lord, we ask that You break every chain of bitterness, resentment, and hopelessness in his heart. Replace his pain with Your peace, his anger with Your love, and his despair with Your hope. Father, remind him that his worth is found in You alone, not in the approval of man or the standards of this world.
We rebuke the lies of the enemy that have told him he is a "wasteman" or that his life has no purpose. Lord, speak truth over him: that he is fearfully and wonderfully made, redeemed by Your blood, and called to a life of significance in Your Kingdom. If he has not yet surrendered his life fully to You, we pray that today would be the day he turns from sin and places his trust in Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior.
Father, heal the wounds of rejection in his heart. Help him to forgive those who have dismissed or hurt him, just as You have forgiven us. Give him the strength to rise above the world’s shallow values and to walk in the confidence of his identity in Christ. If it is Your will for him to marry, prepare him to be a godly husband and bring him a wife who loves You and will walk beside him in faith. But above all, let him find his satisfaction in You alone.
We ask for Your wisdom and discernment to guide his steps. Open doors of opportunity that no man can shut, and let him see Your hand moving in his life. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, that he may walk in obedience, joy, and purpose. May he no longer be defined by the world’s standards, but by Your love and Your calling.
In the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.