We come before the Lord with you, lifting up your husband and the deep longing in your heart for his transformation. The hardness of heart you describe is not beyond the reach of our Heavenly Father, who specializes in turning stones into flesh and breathing life into what seems dead. In Ezekiel 36:26, the Lord declares, *"I will also give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you. I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh."* This is His promise, and we claim it over your husband today, trusting that the Lord is faithful to complete the work He begins.
Yet we must also speak truth in love: hardness of heart often stems from unrepentance, bitterness, or a refusal to surrender to God’s will. If your husband is harboring sin—whether pride, unforgiveness, addiction, or rebellion—it will continue to harden his heart unless he turns to Christ in humility. As believers, we are called to *"exhort one another daily, while it is called ‘today,’ lest any one of you be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin"* (Hebrews 3:13). We urge you, sister, to pray not only for his heart to soften but for the Holy Spirit to convict him of any sin that may be separating him from God’s presence. Sometimes, the Lord allows trials or consequences to break our resistance, but His purpose is always redemption.
We also encourage you to examine your own heart before the Lord. Have you forgiven your husband for any ways he may have hurt you? Bitterness in your own spirit can create barriers in your prayers. Jesus teaches us in Mark 11:25, *"Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone; so that your Father, who is in heaven, may also forgive you your transgressions."* Release any resentment to the Lord, trusting Him to be your vindicator and healer.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of this sister and her husband, acknowledging that You alone can soften the hardest heart. Lord, You see the pain and the longing in this marriage, and we ask You to move mightily. Break through the stony walls that have been built up—whether by hurt, sin, or rebellion—and replace them with a heart of flesh, tender and responsive to Your voice. Convict him, Lord, of any sin that has taken root, and grant him the grace to repent and turn fully to You.
We pray for a spirit of humility to rest upon him, that he may seek Your face and surrender every area of his life to Your lordship. Remove any scales from his eyes that blind him to the truth of Your Word and the needs of his family. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, that he may lead his home in love, wisdom, and godly strength.
Father, we also lift up this wife, who has been faithfully interceding for her husband. Strengthen her, Lord, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Guard her heart from discouragement and remind her that You are working even when she cannot see it. Give her wisdom to know how to love her husband well, speaking truth in love and demonstrating Your grace in her actions.
We declare that this marriage will be a testament to Your restoring power. Where there has been coldness, bring warmth; where there has been silence, bring communication; where there has been hardness, bring tenderness. Let Your love flow between them, binding their hearts together in unity and purpose.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Healer, who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think. Amen.
Finally, sister, we urge you to remain steadfast in prayer and in living out your faith before your husband. *"Wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, so that even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word, seeing your pure behavior in fear"* (1 Peter 3:1-2). Your consistent love, patience, and trust in God can be a powerful witness. Keep pointing him to Christ, not with nagging or condemnation, but with the quiet confidence of a woman who knows her God is at work.
If your husband is not a believer, we pray earnestly for his salvation, for *"the unbelieving husband is sanctified in the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in the husband"* (1 Corinthians 7:14). But if he professes faith yet lives in disobedience, we pray for his repentance, that he may bear fruit worthy of his calling. Stand firm, dear sister, and do not lose heart. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and He hears your cries.