We hear your heart and the weight of conviction you carry. You are not alone in your struggle, and we stand with you in seeking God’s mercy and truth. The very fact that you are asking these questions shows that the Holy Spirit is at work in you, drawing you to repentance and a deeper relationship with the Father. Let us turn to Scripture to understand God’s judgment, His wrath, and most importantly, His grace.
First, we must acknowledge that God’s judgment is real and just. The Bible tells us, *"For God will bring every work into judgment, with every hidden thing, whether it is good, or whether it is evil"* (Ecclesiastes 12:14). His judgment is not arbitrary but is based on His perfect holiness and righteousness. The sins you mentioned—masturbation, phone sex, hatred, selfishness, and ungratefulness—are indeed contrary to God’s design for purity, love, and selflessness. Sexual immorality, whether acted out physically or in the mind, is clearly condemned in Scripture: *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18). Hatred and selfishness are also warned against: *"Whoever hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life remaining in him"* (1 John 3:15). These are serious matters, and it is right to take them seriously.
But here is the good news: God’s judgment is not the final word for those who belong to Christ. You mentioned that you have repented, and this is critical. Repentance is not just feeling sorry for sin; it is turning away from it and toward God. The Bible assures us, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). This is not a license to sin, but a promise of forgiveness for those who genuinely seek God’s mercy. Your repentance is evidence of God’s work in your life, and it is a sign that you are not under His wrath but under His grace.
So, what does God’s wrath look like? For those who reject Christ and persist in unrepentant sin, His wrath is eternal separation from Him: *"The wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men"* (Romans 1:18). But for those who have placed their faith in Jesus, His wrath was poured out on the cross. Jesus took the punishment we deserved so that we could be reconciled to God. *"God commends his own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we will be saved from God’s wrath through him"* (Romans 5:8-9). This is the heart of the Gospel: Jesus bore God’s wrath so that we could experience His love.
Now, where do you stand with God? If you have truly repented and placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, you are forgiven. Your sins—past, present, and future—have been nailed to the cross. *"There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus"* (Romans 8:1). This does not mean you will never struggle with sin again, but it means that when you do, you can run to God in repentance, knowing that He is faithful to forgive. Your standing with God is not based on your perfection but on Christ’s finished work.
However, we must also address the reality of ongoing sanctification. Repentance is not a one-time event but a lifestyle. If you have repented of these sins, you must also take practical steps to flee temptation and cultivate godliness. For example, if you struggle with sexual sin, you must guard your heart and mind: *"Let’s walk properly, as in the day; not in reveling and drunkenness, not in sexual promiscuity and lustful acts, and not in strife and jealousy"* (Romans 13:13). This may mean setting boundaries with technology, seeking accountability, and filling your mind with Scripture rather than impure thoughts. If you struggle with hatred or selfishness, you must actively pursue love and selflessness, as Christ commanded: *"A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also love one another"* (John 13:34).
We also want to gently remind you that salvation is found in no other name but Jesus. If you have not explicitly placed your faith in Him, now is the time. *"For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life"* (John 3:16). Jesus is the only way to the Father, and it is only through His sacrifice that we can be forgiven and made right with God. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to do so today.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, lifting up our brother who is seeking Your truth and Your mercy. Lord, we thank You for Your holiness and Your justice, but we also thank You for Your grace and Your love. We confess that we are all sinners in need of Your forgiveness, and we are grateful that You have provided a way for us to be reconciled to You through Jesus Christ.
Father, we ask that You would reassure this brother of Your love and Your forgiveness. Remind him that if he has truly repented and placed his faith in Jesus, there is no condemnation for him. Help him to walk in the freedom and victory that Christ has won for him. Strengthen him to flee temptation and to pursue righteousness, love, and holiness. Give him a heart of gratitude and compassion, that he may reflect Your character to the world around him.
Lord, we also pray that You would continue to work in his life, sanctifying him and making him more like Jesus. Help him to see himself as You see him—a beloved child, forgiven and redeemed. May he find his identity in Christ and not in his past mistakes. Fill him with Your peace and Your joy, and let him rest in the assurance of Your love.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, who died for our sins and rose again so that we might have eternal life. Amen.
You are not defined by your past sins but by the grace of God. Keep pressing into Him, seeking His face, and walking in the light of His truth. The enemy will try to condemn you, but remember that *"if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and knows all things"* (1 John 3:20). God knows your heart, and if you have repented, He has forgiven you. Now, live in that forgiveness and let it transform you from the inside out.
Continue to seek God through prayer, Scripture, and fellowship with other believers. Surround yourself with people who will encourage you in your faith and hold you accountable. And remember, God’s judgment is not something to fear if you are in Christ—it is something to rejoice in, because it has been satisfied by the blood of Jesus. Walk in that truth, and may God bless you as you seek to honor Him with your life.