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manthaflower
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Fiancée ran off with another girl, thus...
I became homeless
I became unemployed
I lost access to most of our money
I became violently ill throwing up for days at a time
I became severely depressed and crying hysterically for most of the day
I lose over a stone in a short period of time
I am alone since we have been nomadic for 5 years due to working on a cruise ship
background
met the ex-fiancée on a cruise ship and had instant attraction...shared same values of chastity and philanthropy and empathy and devotion we were both each other’s first serious relationship
share similar positive qualities (silliness, cheerful, silly, playful, emphatic, talkative, caring, adventurous, unpretentious, loving)
share similar weaknesses (indecisive, procrastinate, time management)
he always took good care of me, made me laugh more than anyone else, loved me unconditionally, pushed me to try new things, believed in me, gave me little treats
we were together for 4 years, engaged for a year, buying a house, getting visa,
always spent hours just saying I love you repeatedly and soaking up each other's aura, saying that we felt safe and secure in each other's arms
I was always worried about the past and the future, and perhaps never appreciated his wonderfulness in the present
we had a wonderful 5 year plan and we always spoke of spending our lives together
I thought that out lifestyle was holding me back a bit, but it was really just my fears that were holding me back
my family is a bit argumentative, so sometimes I would get upset when things weren’t perfect, but his eyes and his smile would always cheer me up
problem
he told me I needed to do something that focused on me, to help my cv, to get references, to help my self-esteem, self-confidence
I went to work on another cruise ship while he studied
texted and spoke every day, I hated it, he felt responsible, I realized how much I appreciated him,
he worked with me towards achieving a big goal, it took a while, he felt responsible
he came to visit me midway on the ship, I cried and begged to leave because I wanted to be with him and hated the ship, he told me I/he would be so proud if I finished
two days later he failed his exams
two days later he went home for a few days
he met some girl, knew her for 4 days, named a sheep after her, went back to his ship
my parents flew over and met his parents
he talked a lot to this girl when we were on separate ships
when I returned, we had the best month of our relationship ever, ate dinner together, spent every night in each other’s arms, made so many plans
he broke his arm in Mexico, had emergency surgery, sustained nerve damage, and has had a very long recovery
I was nervous about immigration and what to do while he recovered and dealing with his family
we flew back and I was tired and nervous and jet lagged
his family was not very nice to me
we said that we would spend time apart so he could be with his family and I could visit friends
we were due to be apart for 3 days
he had a friend call me and say he didn’t want to be with me
we still talk a lot
he is kind of with this other girl (she is very nice)
I have a feeling things are not going that well based on a variety of sources
he just came to see me and he will be returning soon
progress
being more spontaneous
reading about self-development, empowerment, relationships
being really healthy and skinny and fit and happy
developing skills and interests
living independently
seeing friends
focusing on the present
focusing on doing less things better
working on self-improvement and prayer every day
made new friends who share my faith and values
wishes
to have him back
to not have him with the other girl
to have him see how much I’ve changed
to continue these changes once we are back together
to have an even better relationship in the future
to enjoy his silliness and hugs just because he is wonderful and I love him
to continue our vow of no sex before marriage
to be married within 18 months, supporting each other as husband and wife
to go on the missionary work together that we planned
to get into grad school and to do well
to excel at my language studies so that I may volunteer with disadvantaged people abroad
to find a residential volunteer experience for 6 months
to get married right after grad school
to have his family like me
to radiate beauty and positivity
to maintain my weightless and to stop biting my nails
to have a better relationship with my own family
to have my mom cured of alcoholism
to have my dad cured of brain bleeding
to live a happy healthy positive lifestyle
to grow my faith and my positivity
to compete in a marathon for cancer research
to procrastinate less and to be on time to things
to make a meaningful contribution to scouts and other charities
to be financially secure since I am draining my savings now
to be able to give money to charity
to live an eco-friendly, socially responsible, minimal carbon footprint lifestyle
to see the beauty, value, and positive aspects of every situation
to be able to travel while becoming more settled down
to wake up every day with a smile on my face and lots of energy to help myself and others
to find a job where I can passionately change the world every day
to live in the moment and not worry about the past or the future
to forgive myself for not doing the above before and to solve my regrets
I became homeless
I became unemployed
I lost access to most of our money
I became violently ill throwing up for days at a time
I became severely depressed and crying hysterically for most of the day
I lose over a stone in a short period of time
I am alone since we have been nomadic for 5 years due to working on a cruise ship
background
met the ex-fiancée on a cruise ship and had instant attraction...shared same values of chastity and philanthropy and empathy and devotion we were both each other’s first serious relationship
share similar positive qualities (silliness, cheerful, silly, playful, emphatic, talkative, caring, adventurous, unpretentious, loving)
share similar weaknesses (indecisive, procrastinate, time management)
he always took good care of me, made me laugh more than anyone else, loved me unconditionally, pushed me to try new things, believed in me, gave me little treats
we were together for 4 years, engaged for a year, buying a house, getting visa,
always spent hours just saying I love you repeatedly and soaking up each other's aura, saying that we felt safe and secure in each other's arms
I was always worried about the past and the future, and perhaps never appreciated his wonderfulness in the present
we had a wonderful 5 year plan and we always spoke of spending our lives together
I thought that out lifestyle was holding me back a bit, but it was really just my fears that were holding me back
my family is a bit argumentative, so sometimes I would get upset when things weren’t perfect, but his eyes and his smile would always cheer me up
problem
he told me I needed to do something that focused on me, to help my cv, to get references, to help my self-esteem, self-confidence
I went to work on another cruise ship while he studied
texted and spoke every day, I hated it, he felt responsible, I realized how much I appreciated him,
he worked with me towards achieving a big goal, it took a while, he felt responsible
he came to visit me midway on the ship, I cried and begged to leave because I wanted to be with him and hated the ship, he told me I/he would be so proud if I finished
two days later he failed his exams
two days later he went home for a few days
he met some girl, knew her for 4 days, named a sheep after her, went back to his ship
my parents flew over and met his parents
he talked a lot to this girl when we were on separate ships
when I returned, we had the best month of our relationship ever, ate dinner together, spent every night in each other’s arms, made so many plans
he broke his arm in Mexico, had emergency surgery, sustained nerve damage, and has had a very long recovery
I was nervous about immigration and what to do while he recovered and dealing with his family
we flew back and I was tired and nervous and jet lagged
his family was not very nice to me
we said that we would spend time apart so he could be with his family and I could visit friends
we were due to be apart for 3 days
he had a friend call me and say he didn’t want to be with me
we still talk a lot
he is kind of with this other girl (she is very nice)
I have a feeling things are not going that well based on a variety of sources
he just came to see me and he will be returning soon
progress
being more spontaneous
reading about self-development, empowerment, relationships
being really healthy and skinny and fit and happy
developing skills and interests
living independently
seeing friends
focusing on the present
focusing on doing less things better
working on self-improvement and prayer every day
made new friends who share my faith and values
wishes
to have him back
to not have him with the other girl
to have him see how much I’ve changed
to continue these changes once we are back together
to have an even better relationship in the future
to enjoy his silliness and hugs just because he is wonderful and I love him
to continue our vow of no sex before marriage
to be married within 18 months, supporting each other as husband and wife
to go on the missionary work together that we planned
to get into grad school and to do well
to excel at my language studies so that I may volunteer with disadvantaged people abroad
to find a residential volunteer experience for 6 months
to get married right after grad school
to have his family like me
to radiate beauty and positivity
to maintain my weightless and to stop biting my nails
to have a better relationship with my own family
to have my mom cured of alcoholism
to have my dad cured of brain bleeding
to live a happy healthy positive lifestyle
to grow my faith and my positivity
to compete in a marathon for cancer research
to procrastinate less and to be on time to things
to make a meaningful contribution to scouts and other charities
to be financially secure since I am draining my savings now
to be able to give money to charity
to live an eco-friendly, socially responsible, minimal carbon footprint lifestyle
to see the beauty, value, and positive aspects of every situation
to be able to travel while becoming more settled down
to wake up every day with a smile on my face and lots of energy to help myself and others
to find a job where I can passionately change the world every day
to live in the moment and not worry about the past or the future
to forgive myself for not doing the above before and to solve my regrets
