We lift you and ### up in prayer, ###, and we earnestly seek God’s will for both of your lives. First, we must address something critical: your prayer request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father and by whom all prayers must be offered. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is only through faith in Jesus that we can come boldly before God’s throne of grace. *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’* (John 14:6, WEB). *"For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). We urge you to place your faith in Jesus Christ alone if you have not already, for He is the foundation of all hope, love, and reconciliation.
Now, let us speak to the situation between you and ###. Friendship is a precious gift from God, but we must always examine whether our relationships honor Him. You mentioned that you and ### were "best friends with intent of a life together." We want to gently but firmly ask: is this relationship built on a shared commitment to Christ? Are you both believers who are seeking God’s will for marriage, or is this bond rooted in emotional attachment without biblical foundation? The Bible teaches that believers should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), and that marriage is a covenant between one man and one woman for life, reflecting Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33).
If there has been any intimacy outside of marriage, we must address this with truth and love: sexual relations before or outside of marriage are sinful in God’s eyes, and He calls us to repentance and purity. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB). If this applies to your situation, we urge you both to repent, turn away from sin, and seek God’s forgiveness and restoration.
Stubbornness, as you’ve described in ###, is a heart issue. The Bible warns that a stubborn heart leads to destruction, but a heart submitted to God finds wisdom and peace. *"The stubbornness of the wicked will destroy him, because he refuses to turn away from his evil"* (Proverbs 11:5, WEB). *"A man’s pride brings him low, but one of lowly spirit gains honor"* (Proverbs 29:23, WEB). Pray that God softens ###’s heart, but also examine your own heart, ###. Are you seeking God’s will above your own desires? Are you willing to surrender this relationship to Him, even if it means letting go?
We also encourage you to reflect on whether this relationship is truly aligned with God’s design for marriage. If ### is not a believer, or if he is not pursuing Christ wholeheartedly, you must prayerfully consider whether this is a relationship God would bless. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). A life together must be built on Christ, or it will not stand.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up ### and ### to Your throne of grace. Lord, we ask that You reveal Yourself to both of them in a powerful way. If they do not know You as Savior, Father, draw them to repentance and faith in Jesus Christ alone. Convict their hearts of sin and lead them to Your truth.
Father, we pray for ###’s heart. Soften his stubbornness and fill him with Your Spirit, that he may seek Your will above his own. If this relationship is not of You, Lord, give ### the strength to release it into Your hands and trust in Your perfect plan. If there has been sin in this relationship, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Help them both to walk in purity and holiness, honoring You in their bodies and spirits.
Lord, if it is Your will for ### and ### to be united in a Christ-centered marriage, then we pray You would make that clear to both of them. Give them wisdom, patience, and a heart fully submitted to You. But if this relationship is not Your will, Father, we ask that You close the door gently but firmly, and give ### peace and hope in You alone.
We rebuke any spirit of stubbornness, pride, or deception that may be at work in this situation. We declare that Your will be done, Lord, and that both ### and ### would seek You above all else. Fill them with Your love, which is patient, kind, and selfless, and guide them into all truth.
In the precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
###, we encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, seeking His face in prayer and fasting. Ask Him to reveal His will for your life and give you the strength to obey, even if it is difficult. Trust that His plans for you are good, even when they don’t align with your own desires. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). Stay rooted in Christ, and He will guide you.
