We hear your pain, and our hearts ache with you in this deeply difficult season. What you’ve endured—emotional betrayal, abandonment, and the cruelty of words meant to wound—is not just heartbreaking, it is a violation of the love and dignity God intended for you. You did not deserve this. No woman, no child of God, deserves to be treated with such contempt, especially by someone who once claimed your heart. The way this man has spoken to you is not only ungodly, it is demonic in its intent to destroy your spirit and your hope. We rebuke those words in the name of Jesus. Every lie that you are unloved, unwanted, or worthless—we declare them broken by the blood of Christ. You are precious, created in the image of God, and He has not abandoned you, even when others have.
First, we must address the reality of your situation with biblical truth. The relationship you’ve described—though long-standing—has never been sanctified by God. It has been marked by instability, emotional turmoil, and now, the tragic rejection of a child conceived in sin. Scripture is clear: sexual intimacy outside of marriage is fornication, and it grieves the heart of God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). We do not say this to shame you, but to call you to repentance and to invite God’s healing into every part of your life. The pain you’re feeling now is not just from this man’s rejection—it is also the consequence of a relationship that was never aligned with God’s design. But take heart: God’s mercy is greater than our sin. He is near to the brokenhearted, and He binds up their wounds (Psalm 34:18). This child, though conceived in brokenness, is still a life known and loved by God. We pray for this little one, that God would knit them together in your womb and fill you with His peace as you carry them.
The way this man has treated you—especially his demand for an abortion—is an abomination before God. Children are a heritage from the Lord, a reward from Him (Psalm 127:3). To reject a child, to speak death over a life God has ordained, is to stand in opposition to His will. We rebuke the spirit of death that has spoken through him, and we declare life over this baby in Jesus’ name. You are not alone in this. God sees you, He sees this child, and He will provide for you both. The Lord is your helper; do not be afraid (Hebrews 13:6). We also rebuke the lie that you “trapped” him. You did not force this man into sin—he made his own choices, and now he must answer to God for them. His refusal to take responsibility does not define your worth or your future.
We must also address the spiritual condition of this man. His words—“I hate you,” “go die,” “I don’t care if you live or die”—are not just the words of a bitter heart; they are the fruit of a soul that is far from God. There is no fear of the Lord in him, and without repentance, he is on a path of destruction. We pray for his salvation, that the Holy Spirit would convict him of his sin and draw him to Christ. But we also warn you: do not return to him. A man who can speak such evil over the mother of his child is not a man you should trust with your heart or your future. Proverbs 22:24-25 warns, “Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.” You have already given him far too much of yourself. It is time to let go.
And let us speak plainly about your own heart. You said you “really do want to die.” Sister, those words are not from God. They are from the enemy, who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). But Jesus came that you might have life, and have it abundantly. You are not without hope. You are not without purpose. You are carrying a child, and that alone is a sacred calling. But more than that, God has a plan for you—a plan for good, not for evil, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). We pray that you would cling to that promise, even when the pain feels unbearable.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious daughter of Yours who is hurting so deeply. Lord, You see her pain, You hear her cries, and You collect every tear in Your bottle (Psalm 56:8). We ask that You would wrap Your arms around her in this moment and remind her that she is never alone. Father, we rebuke the spirit of rejection and abandonment that has spoken lies over her life. We break every word of cursing that has been spoken against her, and we declare that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Lord, we pray for this child in her womb—that You would protect them, sustain them, and fill their mother with strength and peace as she carries them.
Father, we ask for Your provision. This woman is facing a future that feels uncertain and overwhelming. But You are Jehovah Jireh, the God who provides. Open doors for her—financially, emotionally, spiritually. Surround her with godly women who can support and encourage her. Give her wisdom as she navigates this season, and help her to make choices that honor You. Lord, we pray for healing—deep, soul-level healing. Mend the broken places in her heart. Restore her hope. Remind her of Your love, which is steadfast and never fails.
And Father, we pray for the man who has caused her so much pain. We ask that You would break his heart, not to harm him, but to save him. Convict him of his sin, Lord. Show him the gravity of the words he has spoken and the life he has rejected. Draw him to repentance and to the foot of the cross. If it is Your will, restore him—but not at the expense of this woman’s peace or safety. Protect her from further harm, and give her the strength to walk away from what is toxic and ungodly.
Lord, we ask that You would fill her with Your Holy Spirit. Give her a fresh revelation of Your love. Help her to see herself through Your eyes—as a beloved daughter, chosen and cherished. When the enemy whispers lies, let her hear Your truth. When she feels weak, remind her that Your power is made perfect in her weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). And when she feels like giving up, let her remember that You are the God who raises the dead and calls things that are not as though they were (Romans 4:17).
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the name by which we are saved and set free. Thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayer. Thank You for Your faithfulness, even when we are faithless. We trust You to work all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). Strengthen this sister, Lord. Hold her close. And let her feel Your presence in a tangible way today.
Amen.
Sister, we want to leave you with this encouragement: God has not forgotten you. He sees your pain, He hears your cries, and He is working even now to bring beauty from this ashes. You are not defined by this man’s rejection. You are defined by the love of Christ, who gave His life for you. You are not alone. You have a church—a family of believers—who stand with you in prayer and support. If you do not have a local church, we urge you to find one. You need community, especially now. You need people who will speak life over you, who will remind you of God’s promises, and who will walk with you through this season.
As for this man, let him go. Do not answer his calls, do not engage with his cruelty. You do not need his permission to live, to thrive, or to raise this child in the ways of the Lord. If he chooses to be a part of this child’s life in a godly way, that is between him and God. But you are not obligated to subject yourself to his abuse. Proverbs 4:14-15 says, “Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not walk in the way of evil men. Avoid it, do not pass by it; turn from it, and pass on.” This is wisdom for you now.
And about this child: they are a gift. Even if the circumstances of their conception were not what God intended, He can redeem this. He can turn this story around for His glory. Trust Him with this little life. Trust Him with your life. He is faithful, and He will not fail you.
If you are struggling with thoughts of self-harm, please reach out to someone—a pastor, a counselor, a trusted friend. You are not a burden. You are a child of God, and your life matters. Call a crisis hotline if you need to. But do not give in to the lie that your life is not worth living. It is. God has a purpose for you, and it is good.
We will continue to pray for you. You are not forgotten. You are loved. And God is with you.
