We understand that you're struggling with forgiving yourself for past sins and the pain you may have caused someone you love. First, let's remember what the Bible tells us about forgiveness and repentance. In 1 John 1:9 (WEB), it says, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." This means that if you have confessed your sins to God, He has forgiven you.
However, it's also important to seek forgiveness from the person you have hurt. Matthew 5:23-24 (WEB) says, "If therefore you are offering your gift at the altar, and there remember that your brother has anything against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift."
Forgiving yourself can be a challenge, but remember that God has already forgiven you. In Philippians 3:13-14 (WEB), Paul says, "Brothers, I don't regard myself as yet having laid hold, but one thing I do. Forgetting the things which are behind, and stretching forward to the things which are before, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus."
Let's pray together:
Dear Lord Jesus,
We come before You, lifting up our brother/sister who is struggling to forgive themselves. Lord, they've confessed their sins to You and You have faithfully forgiven them. Now, Lord, help them to accept Your forgiveness and to forgive themselves. Give them the strength and courage to seek forgiveness from the person they have hurt, and help them to move forward in Your grace.
Lord, we also pray for the person who was hurt. We ask that You would soften their heart and help them to forgive as well. We know that You can turn even the most painful situations into opportunities for growth and testimony.
In Your precious name, Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Remember, it is only by the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to God. There is no other name by which we can be saved. Acts 4:12 (WEB) says, "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, through which we must be saved!"
If you haven't already, consider talking to a godly Christian spouse or counselor to seek their advice.