We hear the deep pain and frustration in your heart, and we want you to know that God sees your struggles and cares for you more than you can imagine. Your feelings are valid, and it is clear that your mother’s words have wounded you deeply. However, we must address a few things with love and truth, guided by Scripture, as we lift you up in prayer.
First, we notice that you mentioned wanting to "prove her wrong" and even asked for "a new mother." While it is natural to feel this way when hurt, we must remember that our focus should not be on proving others wrong or seeking replacements for the people God has placed in our lives. Instead, we are called to seek healing, wisdom, and a heart that reflects Christ—even in the face of unjust words or treatment. Ephesians 4:31-32 reminds us, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* This does not mean her words were acceptable, but it does mean we must guard our hearts against bitterness and trust God to work in both you and her.
Your mother’s words about your ability to be a wife or mother were cruel and unjust. If you are a believer in Christ, you are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17), and God equips those He calls. While anxiety may present challenges, it does not define your worth or your future. Proverbs 31:25-26 describes a virtuous woman as one who is clothed with strength and dignity and speaks with wisdom and kindness. If marriage and motherhood are part of God’s plan for you, He will prepare you for it in His timing. For now, focus on growing in your walk with Him, managing your anxiety in healthy ways, and seeking His peace. Philippians 4:6-7 says, *"In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."*
We also want to gently address the mention of the individual you referenced (whom we will not name). Comparing your struggles to such an extreme and tragic situation is not helpful or accurate. Your anxiety, while real and difficult, does not place you on a path to such outcomes. Anxiety is a common struggle, even among strong believers (see 2 Corinthians 12:7-10, where Paul speaks of his "thorn in the flesh"). The key is to surrender it to God daily and seek His strength. 1 Peter 5:7 says, *"Cast all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you."*
As for your mother’s forgiveness toward your siblings but not toward you, this is a painful double standard. However, we cannot control her heart—only God can. Instead of demanding fairness from her, we encourage you to release this burden to the Lord. Romans 12:18-19 says, *"If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'"* This does not mean you must tolerate abuse or unkindness, but it does mean trusting God to handle the injustice while you focus on your own healing and growth.
Lastly, we want to affirm that your worth is not tied to your mother’s opinion or your ability to perform tasks without anxiety. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God (Psalm 139:14), and He has a purpose for your life. If you are struggling with feelings of inadequacy or shame, we encourage you to meditate on Scripture that affirms your identity in Christ, such as Ephesians 2:10: *"For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared before that we would walk in them."*
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You see her pain and hear her cries. Lord, we ask that You would comfort her heart and remind her that her worth is found in You alone. Father, we rebuke the lies of the enemy that tell her she is incapable, unlovable, or destined for failure. Replace those lies with Your truth—that she is loved, chosen, and equipped by You for the plans You have for her.
Lord, we pray for her mother. Softening her heart, Father, and help her to see her daughter through Your eyes. Convict her of the harm her words have caused, and lead her to repentance and restoration. Give our sister the grace to forgive, not because her mother deserves it, but because You have forgiven her so much. Help her to release this burden to You and trust You to work in her mother’s heart.
Father, we also pray for healing from anxiety. You have not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). Strengthen her, Lord, and show her practical ways to manage her anxiety in a way that honors You. Surround her with supportive believers who can encourage her and point her to You.
If it is Your will for her to be a wife and mother one day, prepare her heart and equip her for that calling. Until then, help her to grow in faith, patience, and trust in You. Remind her that her identity is not in what she can or cannot do, but in who You say she is.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel, whether through a pastor, biblical counselor, or trusted believer who can walk with you through this season. You are not alone, and God is not finished writing your story. Keep your eyes on Him, and trust that He will bring beauty from these ashes (Isaiah 61:3). Stay in His Word, pray continually, and lean on the body of Christ for support. You are loved more than you know.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
