Anonymous
Beloved of All
I'm engaged to a wonderful person that I've been dating for a few years. I just recently found out about something that happened over a year ago, before things were really starting to get serious between us, before we started making plans to start a life together. It was also before we started attending church together. The last year has been especially wonderful. We've been going to church, planning to get married and have a home together. This thing that happened was before the last year, but I'm still hurt very deeply.
My fiance had a period of a couple of months where he was curious about seeking some no strings attached flings through some online websites tailored specifically for people to find someone to have an affair with. From investigating it occurred only for a couple of months, it didn't appear that he actually did meet up with anyone, and he stopped the behavior on his own without being caught or confronted (I was blissfully unaware). When I discussed it with him he was deeply sorry, did not get defensive or even try to justify it in any way, and everything he said matched everything that I had found. He said that it was stupid of him to do, and that he realized it was not what he wanted so he stopped.
This is the only reason I feel I can have hope that our relationship can continue and get past this - he didn't stop because he got caught or given ultimatums (I had no idea until more than a year after it was already over) - he stopped himself. This gives me hope that he is a good man who made some bad choices, but that ultimately he chose our relationship over satisfying empty lusts. I have chosen to forgive him, but I'm still feeling a lot of different painful feelings. Please pray that I can get past the hurt I feel, and that our relationship will be restored even stronger than before. Apart from this mistake, he has been the most wonderful person I have ever known.
Thank you and God bless you.
My fiance had a period of a couple of months where he was curious about seeking some no strings attached flings through some online websites tailored specifically for people to find someone to have an affair with. From investigating it occurred only for a couple of months, it didn't appear that he actually did meet up with anyone, and he stopped the behavior on his own without being caught or confronted (I was blissfully unaware). When I discussed it with him he was deeply sorry, did not get defensive or even try to justify it in any way, and everything he said matched everything that I had found. He said that it was stupid of him to do, and that he realized it was not what he wanted so he stopped.
This is the only reason I feel I can have hope that our relationship can continue and get past this - he didn't stop because he got caught or given ultimatums (I had no idea until more than a year after it was already over) - he stopped himself. This gives me hope that he is a good man who made some bad choices, but that ultimately he chose our relationship over satisfying empty lusts. I have chosen to forgive him, but I'm still feeling a lot of different painful feelings. Please pray that I can get past the hurt I feel, and that our relationship will be restored even stronger than before. Apart from this mistake, he has been the most wonderful person I have ever known.
Thank you and God bless you.
