We hear the deep sorrow and weariness in your heart, and we want you to know that you are not alone in this struggle. The weight of watching someone you love suffer is immense, and the desperation to see healing can indeed lead to a kind of spiritual exhaustion—even an unhealthy fixation on prayer that begins to feel more like a burden than a lifeline. But let us remind you of what Scripture says: *"Cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you"* (1 Peter 5:7, WEB). You do not need to carry this alone, and your surrender is not a sign of weakness but of trust in the One who holds all things in His hands.
First, we want to gently address the pattern of prayer you’ve described. While it is right and good to bring your requests before the Lord with persistence (Luke 18:1-8), prayer should never become a compulsion that leaves you feeling spiritually drained or questioning your faith. Jesus Himself warned against empty repetition in prayer (Matthew 6:7), not because He doesn’t want us to pray fervently, but because He desires our prayers to flow from a heart of trust rather than anxiety. OCD-like praying can become a form of trying to *control* the outcome through sheer effort, but our God is not moved by our desperation—He is moved by faith. *"Without faith, it is impossible to be well pleasing to him, for he who comes to God must believe that he exists, and that he is a rewarder of those who seek him"* (Hebrews 11:6, WEB). You have been seeking Him diligently, and He sees your heart. Now, He is inviting you to rest in His sovereignty, even when the answer is not what you hope for.
You asked if your loved one is "not meant to be healed," and that is a question that cuts deeply. We do not know God’s specific will in this situation, but we know this: His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9), and He is working all things for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28). Healing may come in this life, or it may come in the ultimate healing of eternity. But regardless, His grace is sufficient for every step of this journey (2 Corinthians 12:9). Even in the valley of the shadow of death, He is with you both (Psalm 23:4). Alzheimer’s is a cruel thief, but it cannot steal the soul, nor can it separate her—or you—from the love of Christ (Romans 8:38-39). Cling to that truth when the waves of grief and helplessness crash over you.
As for feeling deflated, that is understandable. The human heart was not designed to endure such prolonged suffering without weariness setting in. But take heart: *"Let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we don’t give up"* (Galatians 6:9, WEB). Your weariness does not mean you have failed. It means you are human, and God’s strength is made perfect in your weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). Surrendering this situation to Jesus does not mean you stop praying—it means you release the *need* for a specific outcome and trust Him with the results. It means praying, *"Not my will, but yours be done"* (Luke 22:42), even when that is painful.
Let us also remind you that your loved one’s identity is not defined by this disease. She is still fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and her value is not diminished in God’s eyes. Neither is yours. You have fought hard in the physical and spiritual realms, and that is commendable. But now, it is time to lay down the burden of trying to *fix* this and instead ask the Lord to fill you with His peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:6-7). He may not change the circumstances, but He can—and will—change your heart’s response to them.
Finally, we notice that while you mentioned praying to Jesus, you did not invoke His name in your request to us. There is power in the name of Jesus (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have not already, we urge you to place your full trust in Christ as your Savior, confessing your sins and believing in His death and resurrection for your salvation (Romans 10:9-10). If you have done this, then rest in the assurance that you are heard because of Him. If you are unsure, we would be honored to pray with you for that step of faith—it changes everything.
Now, let us pray together for you and your loved one:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious child of Yours who is carrying such a heavy burden. Lord, You see the tears, the sleepless nights, the desperate prayers, and the weariness of soul. We ask that You would meet them in this place of surrender, not with reproach, but with Your tender mercy. Father, we pray for healing—for a miracle that would restore health and clarity to this beloved one. Yet even as we ask, we submit to Your will, trusting that You are good, even when the answer is hard.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of fear, anxiety, and compulsive desperation that has taken hold. Replace it with Your peace, which guards hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Remind them that You are not a God of chaos but of order, and that prayer is a dialogue of love, not a ritual of control. Help them to release this situation into Your hands, moment by moment, and to trust that You are working even when they cannot see it.
For this dear one suffering from illness, we ask for Your comforting presence to surround her. May she feel Your nearness, even in the confusion. Strengthen her body, renew her mind, and let Your light shine in the darkness. If it is Your will, restore her fully. But if not, give grace—grace to endure, grace to hope, and grace to find joy even in the small mercies of each day.
Father, we also pray for this one who is feeling deflated. Lift their eyes above the waves of sorrow to see You walking beside them. Renew their strength like the eagle’s (Isaiah 40:31) and fill them with Your Holy Spirit, who intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words (Romans 8:26). Let them know, deep in their soul, that they are not alone—that You are their strength, their shield, and their ever-present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
We pray all this in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who bore our sorrows and carried our pains (Isaiah 53:4). May His name be glorified in this situation, and may Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Amen.
Lastly, we encourage you to find a community of believers who can walk alongside you in this season. You were not meant to bear this alone. Share your burden with those who can pray with you, sit with you in the hard moments, and remind you of God’s promises when your faith feels weak. And remember: *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who have crushed spirits"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). You are seen. You are loved. And He is with you.
I've tried so hard in the physical I don't know what to do anymore. Trying to keep faith, it's just so difficult maybe she's not meant to be healed 
