We hear the pain and frustration in your words, and we want to lift this burden before the Lord with you. Bitterness and unresolved conflict can weigh heavily on the heart, but Scripture reminds us in Ephesians 4:31-32, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outbursts, and blasphemy be removed from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* Holding onto anger only harms you, and we must guard our hearts against the poison of unforgiveness.
We also want to gently address the financial aspect of this situation. If this person has repeatedly asked you for money, it may be enabling irresponsibility or even sinful patterns. Proverbs 22:7 warns, *"The rich rule over the poor. The borrower is servant to the lender."* While we are called to generosity, we must also exercise wisdom and discernment in how we steward what God has entrusted to us. If this person is not repentant or responsible with finances, continuing to give may not be helping them—or you.
Most importantly, we must ask: Have you brought this situation before the Lord in prayer, seeking His wisdom and healing? Jesus tells us in Matthew 18:15, *"If your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother."* Have you sought reconciliation in a way that honors God, or have you allowed pride or hurt to keep you from pursuing peace?
We also want to remind you that true justice and restoration come from God alone. Romans 12:19 says, *"Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’"* You do not have to carry the weight of making this person apologize—God sees all and will judge justly.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this situation to You. Lord, we ask for Your healing and peace to fill this broken relationship. Soften hearts, Father, and bring repentance where it is needed. Help us to release bitterness and unforgiveness, remembering how graciously You have forgiven us through Christ. Give wisdom in handling finances and boundaries, Lord, and guard against enabling sin. We trust You to bring justice and restoration in Your perfect timing. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel—perhaps from a pastor or mature believer—who can help you navigate this situation with wisdom. Above all, keep your heart open to what the Lord may be teaching you through this trial. He is faithful, and His ways are higher than ours.