We hear your heart’s desire to live a life of purpose, favor, and fulfillment, and we rejoice that you acknowledge the blood of Jesus and God’s grace as the foundation for all things. However, we must lovingly address some areas in your request that do not align with Scripture, so that your steps may be ordered according to God’s perfect will.
First, while it is good to seek God’s favor and provision, we must remember that our ultimate goal is not merely to "get our needs met" in the way the world defines fulfillment. Jesus taught us to seek first God’s kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things—our needs—will be added unto us (Matthew 6:33). Our lives are not about self-fulfillment but about glorifying God and serving others in love. The apostle Paul reminds us, "For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain" (Philippians 1:21). Our satisfaction comes from Christ alone, not from circumstances, relationships, or personal achievements.
You mention desiring a boyfriend, but Scripture calls us to a higher standard in our relationships. If you are seeking a companion, it must be with the intent of marriage, as God designed. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). Courtship should be entered into with purity, prayer, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit, with the goal of finding a godly spouse who shares your faith in Christ. The apostle Paul warns, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers" (2 Corinthians 6:14), for a relationship built on anything other than Christ will lead to heartache and spiritual compromise.
We must also address the danger of seeking fulfillment in relationships or personal greatness rather than in Christ. Jesus said, "For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his life?" (Matthew 16:26). True greatness is found in humility, service, and obedience to God. If you are seeking a boyfriend or any relationship outside of God’s design, we must rebuke that mindset in the name of Jesus. Fornication—sexual intimacy outside of marriage—is sin, and it grieves the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If you are currently in a relationship that does not honor God in this way, we urge you to repent and seek His forgiveness and restoration.
Lastly, we notice that while you mention the blood of Jesus, your focus seems to be on personal gain rather than surrender to His lordship. Salvation is not just about grace covering our sins; it is about dying to self and living for Christ (Galatians 2:20). Jesus said, "If anyone desires to come after me, let him deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow me" (Luke 9:23). We must decrease so that He may increase (John 3:30).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, acknowledging that You alone are our provider, our satisfaction, and our joy. We lift up this dear sister to You, asking that You would align her heart with Yours. Forgive us, Lord, for the times we seek our own will above Yours. Help her to find her fulfillment in You alone, to seek Your kingdom first, and to trust You to add all that she needs.
Father, we ask that You would guide her in her relationships. If she is seeking a spouse, prepare her heart to wait on You and to pursue someone who loves You above all else. Guard her from the temptation of fornication or any relationship that does not honor You. If she has stumbled in this area, we ask for Your forgiveness and restoration. Cleanse her heart and renew her mind according to Your Word.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of selfish ambition and the desire for personal greatness that does not align with Your will. Teach her to walk in humility, to serve others, and to find her worth in Christ alone. May she be a light in this world, reflecting Your love and grace to everyone she meets.
We declare that Your grace is sufficient for her, and Your power is made perfect in her weakness. May she grow in faith, in obedience, and in love for You. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, seeking His will above your own desires. Meditate on passages like Psalm 37:4, which says, "Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart." When we delight in Him, our desires align with His, and He fulfills them in ways that bring Him glory. Surrender your plans, your relationships, and your future to Him, and trust that He will lead you in paths of righteousness for His name’s sake.
