We hear the urgency in your cry, and we join you in lifting this heavy burden before the Lord, for He alone is the author of marriage and the One who guides our steps. Your plea for wisdom in this marriage decision is deeply important, and we must first anchor this in the truth of Scripture: *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). Too often, we rely on our emotions, fears, or even the opinions of others rather than seeking God’s perfect will. But marriage is not a decision to be made lightly—it is a covenant before God, a lifelong commitment that reflects Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33).
Before we pray, we must ask: Are you seeking a spouse who is a born-again believer in Jesus Christ? The Bible is clear that we are not to be *"unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If the person you are considering does not share your faith in Christ, this is not a decision to pray over—it is a path the Lord has already closed. A marriage without Christ at the center is built on shifting sand, and no amount of love or hope can replace the foundation of shared faith. If this is the case, we urge you to step back and trust that God’s plan for your life is far greater than any relationship that would pull you away from Him.
If you *are* considering a believer, we must still examine the fruit of this potential union. Is this relationship honoring to God in every way? Have you guarded your hearts and bodies from fornication, which is a sin against your own body and the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)? Are you both submitted to Christ, seeking His will above your own desires? Marriage is not the solution to loneliness, fear, or insecurity—it is a sacred calling to serve God together, to raise a godly legacy, and to reflect His love in a broken world.
We also notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ. This is not a small matter, for Scripture declares, *"There is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). It is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we implore you to do so now. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to be Lord of your life. Without this, no prayer for marriage—or anything else—can be fully aligned with God’s will.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this precious soul who is crying out for Your guidance in this marriage decision. Lord, You know the depths of their heart, the fears they carry, and the desires they hold. We ask that You would speak clearly, leaving no room for doubt or confusion. If this relationship is not of You, we pray You would close the door decisively, giving them the strength to walk away in obedience. If it *is* Your will, we ask that You would confirm it through Your Word, through godly counsel, and through the peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
Father, expose any sin that needs to be repented of—any compromise, any ungodly soul ties, or any idolatry that has taken root. Cleanse them by the blood of Jesus and renew their mind to align with Your truth. If there has been sexual immorality, we rebuke the enemy’s lies that say it’s too late to turn back. Your grace is sufficient, and Your mercy is new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23). Restore purity and holy conviction where it has been lost.
Lord, we pray for a spouse who will lead or submit in Christ-like love, who will cherish and honor this covenant as You intend. Break any chains of fear, impatience, or worldly influence that would rush this decision outside of Your timing. Let them wait on You, even if it feels painful, knowing that Your plans are for their good (Jeremiah 29:11).
And Father, if this person does not yet know You as Savior, we pray for a divine interruption. Let no believer be unequally yoked, but instead, draw them to a mate who will spur them on toward love and good deeds (Hebrews 10:24). Give them the courage to walk away from anything that is not Your best, trusting that You are preparing someone who will love You *and* them with a whole heart.
We bind any spirit of confusion, deception, or hurry in Jesus’ name. Let Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, that they may discern Your voice above all others. We ask all this in the powerful, saving name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
Beloved, we urge you to fast and pray over this decision, seeking the Lord with all your heart. Surround yourself with mature believers who will speak truth into your life, not just what you want to hear. Test every thought and feeling against Scripture. And remember: Delayed obedience is disobedience. If God has already shown you this path is not His will, trust Him enough to let it go. His plans for you are *good*—even when the waiting is hard.
*"The heart of man plans his course, but Yahweh establishes his steps."* (Proverbs 16:9, WEB). Lean on Him. He will not fail you.