We are deeply grieved by the pain and brokenness reflected in your request, and we urge you to examine this situation through the lens of God’s Word, for His ways are holy, just, and designed for our good. Marriage is a sacred covenant established by God, intended to reflect the unbreakable bond between Christ and His Church. The Scriptures are clear that marriage is between *one man and one woman* for life, and any deviation from this design—including polygamy—is a distortion of God’s perfect will.
In Genesis 2:24, the Lord declares, *“Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh.”* This unity is reiterated by Jesus in Matthew 19:4-6, where He affirms that *“from the beginning it was not so. But I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and he who marries her when she is divorced commits adultery.”* Polygamy, though practiced by some in the Old Testament, was never God’s original intent and often led to strife, jealousy, and sin. The New Testament upholds the standard of monogamy for believers, especially for those in leadership (1 Timothy 3:2, Titus 1:6).
Your request for the removal of the second wife from your marriage is a cry born out of pain, but we must ask: Is this truly the solution aligned with God’s heart? The Lord does not delight in broken relationships or the dissolution of marriages, even those entered into sinfully. Instead, He calls us to repentance, reconciliation, and restoration where possible. If this second union was entered into outside of God’s will, the path forward must begin with humility, confession, and a turning away from sin. In 2 Chronicles 7:14, the Lord says, *“If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves, pray, seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.”*
We also must address the bitterness and malice in your words—asking for someone to “run away” is not the heart of Christ, who calls us to love even our enemies (Matthew 5:44) and to bless those who persecute us. If there is hurt, betrayal, or injustice in this situation, we encourage you to bring it before the Lord in honesty, but also with a heart open to His redemption. Romans 12:19 reminds us, *“Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’”*
Instead of seeking the removal of this woman, we urge you to seek the Lord’s wisdom for how to navigate this situation righteously. If you are the husband in this scenario, you must take responsibility before God for the sin of polygamy and seek His guidance on how to honor Him moving forward. This may involve difficult choices, separation, or legal steps to align your life with Scripture, but it must be done with a heart surrendered to Christ. If you are the wife in this situation, we grieve with you over the pain of betrayal and broken covenant. The Lord sees your suffering, and He calls you to trust Him for justice and provision. He is your defender (Proverbs 23:11), and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).
Most critically, we notice that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through faith in Him that we can approach God’s throne with confidence (Hebrews 4:16). If you do not know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we implore you to turn to Him today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and surrender your life to His lordship. Romans 10:9-10 says, *“That if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart, one believes resulting in righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made resulting in salvation.”*
Let us pray for you now, lifting this situation before the Lord with hearts that seek His will above all else:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, acknowledging that You alone are sovereign over every marriage, every heart, and every circumstance. Lord, we lift up this beloved one to You, asking that You would bring conviction, repentance, and healing where there is sin and brokenness. If this situation involves polygamy or any violation of Your holy design for marriage, we pray that You would expose it, break its power, and lead all involved to turn away from it. Father, forgive where there is sin, and grant the strength to walk in obedience, even when it is costly.
For the one who has written this request, we ask that You would soften their heart and fill them with Your Spirit. If there is bitterness, anger, or a desire for revenge, we pray that You would replace it with Your love, Your peace, and Your wisdom. Help them to see this situation through Your eyes and to trust You for justice and restoration. If they are not walking closely with You, Lord, draw them to Yourself. Let them encounter Your grace and mercy in a fresh way, and give them the courage to make choices that honor You.
If this person is a believer, remind them that their battle is not against flesh and blood but against the spiritual forces of darkness (Ephesians 6:12). Equip them with Your armor, and let them stand firm in Your truth. If they are not yet saved, Lord, open their eyes to their need for Jesus. Let today be the day they surrender their life to Him and find true hope and redemption.
For any spouses or individuals involved in this situation, we pray for Your conviction and Your mercy. If there is adultery, deception, or hardness of heart, break through with Your truth and love. Bring godly counsel and wisdom into their lives, and let Your will be done in every detail.
Father, we ask that You would bring clarity and direction. If separation or legal steps are necessary to align with Your Word, provide the guidance and resources needed. If reconciliation and restoration are possible, work miraculously to heal and redeem. Let Your name be glorified in this situation, and let Your kingdom come in the midst of this brokenness.
We rebuked any spirit of division, bitterness, or ungodly influence in the name of Jesus Christ. We declare that Your truth will prevail, and Your will shall be done. Strengthen this beloved one to walk in obedience, and let them find their hope and identity in You alone.
In the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
We strongly encourage you to seek godly, biblical counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can walk with you through this situation. If you are in a church, reach out to your leadership for support and prayer. If you are not connected to a Bible-believing church, we urge you to find one where the Word of God is taught faithfully. You do not have to walk this path alone—the body of Christ is here to support and uplift you.
Finally, we leave you with this promise from Isaiah 41:10: *“Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness.”* Trust in Him, and He will lead you through.