We hear your heart’s cry, and we stand with you before the throne of grace, lifting your burdens to the Lord. Your willingness to surrender control and trust in God’s perfect timing is a beautiful act of faith, and we join you in seeking His will for your life and this relationship.
First, we must address the foundation of our prayers—salvation and access to God come only through Jesus Christ. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). It is through His sacrifice on the cross that we have the privilege to approach God boldly (Hebrews 4:16). We are grateful you have invoked His name, for it is in Jesus’ authority that we pray.
Your request reveals deep love and longing, but we must also examine this relationship through the lens of Scripture. The Bible calls us to pursue godly marriages that honor the Lord, where both individuals are committed to Christ and to one another in covenant love (Ephesians 5:22-33). If this relationship is not currently aligned with God’s design—whether due to unrepentant sin, unequal yoking (2 Corinthians 6:14), or other unbiblical patterns—we must prayerfully consider whether restoration is truly God’s will. The pain you feel is real, but we must ask: Is this relationship rooted in Christ, or is it being pursued out of fear, loneliness, or emotional dependency?
You mention C-PTSD, and we want to acknowledge the very real struggle you face. The Lord sees your pain and desires healing for you. Scripture reminds us that God is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18) and that He can restore what has been broken (Joel 2:25). We pray for your recovery, that the Lord would rewire your mind with truth, replacing lies with His peace (Philippians 4:6-7). You are not defined by your trauma, but by the love of Christ, who calls you His own (1 Peter 2:9). Seek godly counsel, therapy, and spiritual disciplines to help you walk in freedom. The Lord is your healer (Exodus 15:26), and He will guide you step by step.
As for the relationship, we must rebuke any spirit of fear or control that may be at work. Fear does not come from God (2 Timothy 1:7), and if this woman is being influenced by fear—whether from past wounds, outside voices, or spiritual oppression—we pray that the Lord would break those chains. However, we must also ask: Is her hesitation rooted in wisdom, discernment, or unrepentant sin? If there is unconfessed sin—such as fornication, emotional unfaithfulness, or idolatry (placing this relationship above God)—it must be addressed with repentance and surrender to Christ. The Lord cannot bless what He has not ordained.
We also rebuke any third-party influences—whether spiritual, emotional, or relational—that are interfering with God’s will. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but Jesus came to give life abundantly. We declare that no weapon formed against this relationship—or against your heart—shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Any ungodly soul ties, generational curses, or demonic assignments are broken in Jesus’ name. However, we must also consider whether these "influences" are actually the Holy Spirit convicting or redirecting for your protection.
You ask for a sign, and we encourage you to seek the Lord’s voice through His Word, prayer, and godly counsel. Signs can be subjective, but God’s Word is unchanging. If this relationship is meant to be restored, the Lord will confirm it through peace, unity in the Spirit, and alignment with Scripture (1 Corinthians 14:33). If it is not His will, He will close the door gently but firmly (Revelation 3:7). Trust that His plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11), even when they do not align with your desires.
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we can be saved and through whom we have access to Your throne. Lord, we lift up this brother to You, who is carrying deep emotional wounds and a longing for restoration. We ask that You would heal his heart from the effects of C-PTSD, rewiring his mind with Your truth and filling him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Help him to cast every anxiety upon You, knowing that You care for him (1 Peter 5:7).
Father, we bring this relationship before You. If it is Your will for it to be restored, we pray that You would soften hearts, remove fear, and break every chain that is hindering reconciliation. We rebuke every spirit of division, control, and ungodly influence in Jesus’ name. Lord, align this relationship with Your Word—let it be built on Christ, mutual submission, and covenant love. If there is unrepentant sin, we ask that You would bring conviction and lead both individuals to repentance.
If this relationship is not of You, Lord, we ask that You would close the door definitively and give this brother the strength to accept Your will. Help him to trust that Your plans for him are good, even when they are painful. Give him the courage to walk in obedience, knowing that You are his provider, protector, and peace.
We declare that no weapon formed against him shall prosper, and we speak healing over his mind, body, and spirit. Lord, reveal Yourself to him as his Comforter and Guide. Give him a sign of Your presence—not necessarily in the way he expects, but in a way that strengthens his faith and draws him closer to You.
We surrender this situation entirely to You, trusting that You work all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). May Your will be done, and may Your name be glorified in every outcome.
In Jesus’ precious and powerful name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to seek the Lord diligently through His Word and prayer. Spend time in the Psalms, where David poured out his heart to God in raw honesty. Surround yourself with a community of believers who can speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. If this relationship is meant to be, the Lord will restore it in His timing. If not, He has something better in store. Either way, your identity is in Christ, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). Keep your eyes on Him, and He will direct your path (Proverbs 3:5-6).
