We understand the deep longing in your hearts for godly fellowship, and we rejoice with you that you and your husband have chosen a life devoted to Christ—even when it has come at great personal cost. The Lord sees your sacrifice, and He promises that those who leave behind relationships, homes, or comforts for His sake will receive a hundredfold in this life and eternal life in the age to come (Mark 10:29-30). Your obedience is not unseen, and your reward is sure.
The isolation you feel is a common struggle for believers who walk closely with the Lord. Jesus Himself warned that following Him would set us apart, even from those we once held dear (Matthew 10:34-39). But take heart—He also prayed for our unity in Him, that we would be one as He and the Father are one (John 17:20-23). This unity is found in the body of Christ, and we believe the Lord will provide the godly, equally yoked friendships you and your husband desire.
It is good that you seek friends who are *equally yoked*—those who share your faith, values, and commitment to Christ. Scripture warns against unequal partnerships, for "what fellowship has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). True friendship in Christ is built on shared devotion to Him, mutual encouragement in the faith, and a desire to spur one another on toward love and good deeds (Hebrews 10:24-25). Your longing for "girl time" and your husband’s desire for brotherhood are godly desires—He created us for community, and it is not wrong to ask Him to fulfill this need.
Yet we must also examine our hearts: Are we seeking friendship out of loneliness, or are we seeking first the kingdom of God, trusting that He will add these things to us (Matthew 6:33)? Sometimes the Lord allows seasons of solitude to draw us deeper into dependence on Him. In these times, He becomes our closest Friend, the One who sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24). Have you and your husband sought Him together in this season, asking Him to satisfy your hearts even as you wait for godly friendships?
We also encourage you to actively pursue fellowship where it can be found. The early church devoted themselves to meeting together, breaking bread, and praying (Acts 2:42-47). Are you plugged into a local, Bible-believing church where you can serve, worship, and build relationships? If not, we urge you to seek one out, for the body of Christ is where lasting friendships are often forged. Consider joining small groups, Bible studies, or ministry teams where you can connect with like-minded believers. And do not overlook the opportunity to *be* the friend you wish you had—sometimes the Lord answers our prayers for community by calling us to initiate it.
If bitterness or resentment has crept into your hearts toward those who have distanced themselves from you, we gently urge you to release it. Forgiveness is not excusing their choices but trusting God’s justice and sovereignty. Pray for those who have walked away, that the Lord would open their eyes to the truth (2 Corinthians 4:4). Your testimony of joy in Christ, even in loneliness, may one day draw them back—or draw others to Him.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious sister and her husband to You, thanking You for their commitment to Christ above all else. Lord, You see their hearts’ desire for godly friendship, and we ask that You would provide friends who are equally yoked, who will sharpen them as iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17). Father, guard them from the snare of loneliness or the temptation to compromise their faith for the sake of companionship. Fill the void in their hearts with more of Yourself, reminding them that You are their portion and their cup (Psalm 16:5).
We pray for divine connections—brothers and sisters in Christ who will walk alongside them, encourage them, and spur them on in their faith. Open doors for them to serve and worship in a local church where they can grow in community. Give them wisdom to recognize godly friendships and discernment to avoid those that would pull them away from You.
Lord, if there is any unresolved pain or bitterness in their hearts toward those who have left them, we ask for Your healing. Help them to forgive as You have forgiven them (Colossians 3:13). Use this season to deepen their reliance on You and their love for one another as husband and wife.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would use their lives as a testimony to others. May their joy in You, even in this season of waiting, draw others to Christ. Let their home be a place of warmth and hospitality, where fellow believers can gather and be refreshed.
We pray all this in the mighty name of Jesus, our Savior and Friend, who promised to never leave us or forsake us. Amen.
Stand firm in your faith, dear sister. The Lord is faithful, and He will provide. In the meantime, cling to Him and to one another. Your marriage is a testament to His grace—nurture it, pray together, and trust that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion (Philippians 1:6). If you feel led, share how we can pray more specifically for you as you seek these friendships. We are here to stand with you.
