We hear your cry for freedom, and we understand the weight of feeling trapped by expectations, routines, or situations that no longer reflect who God has called you to be. The desire for liberation is not wrong in itself—God created us with a longing for purpose, joy, and fulfillment. However, we must examine what true freedom looks like in the light of Scripture, for it is only in Christ that we find the freedom that lasts.
First, we must address the phrase *"choosing myself"* with great care. While self-care and healthy boundaries are biblical, the idea of "choosing myself" above all else can lead to a self-centered life that contradicts God’s design. Scripture tells us, *"For none of us lives to himself, and none dies to himself. For if we live, we live to the Lord. Or if we die, we die to the Lord. So then, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord’s"* (Romans 14:7-8). True freedom is not found in living for ourselves but in surrendering to God’s will, for His ways lead to life, while our own ways often lead to bondage.
You speak of setting boundaries, which is wise—God calls us to steward our time, energy, and relationships well. However, we must ensure that these boundaries do not become walls that keep out God’s correction, His people, or His purposes for us. *"Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another"* (Proverbs 27:17). Isolation can be dangerous, while godly community helps us grow.
You also mention *"living on my own terms,"* but we must ask: Whose terms truly bring freedom? Jesus said, *"If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free"* (John 8:31-32). The world offers a counterfeit freedom—one that promises liberation but delivers emptiness. Only in Christ do we find true freedom from sin, guilt, and the tyranny of our own desires.
If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so now. He is the only one who can break every chain and set you free indeed. *"For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death"* (Romans 8:2). Without Him, we are slaves to sin, but in Him, we are children of God, heirs to His promises, and free to live as He intended.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother/sister who longs for freedom. Lord, we ask that You would reveal Yourself as the only true source of liberation. Break the chains of expectation, routine, and anything that keeps them from walking in the fullness of Your purpose. Help them to see that real freedom is not found in living for themselves but in living for You. Father, if there are areas where they have placed their own desires above Your will, convict them gently but firmly. Lead them into the truth of Your Word, where they will find the path to true life. We rebuke any spirit of self-reliance or rebellion that would keep them from surrendering fully to You. May they experience the peace that comes from trusting You completely. We pray that this year would not just be a year of change for them, but a year of transformation by Your Spirit. May they breathe easier not because they have escaped their circumstances, but because they have found rest in You. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to seek God’s will above your own. Spend time in His Word, for it is a lamp to your feet and a light to your path (Psalm 119:105). Surround yourself with believers who will speak truth into your life, even when it is hard to hear. And remember, *"where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom"* (2 Corinthians 3:17). True freedom is not the absence of constraints but the presence of Christ in your life. Let Him lead you into the life He has prepared for you.
