We lift you up before the Lord, knowing that the weight of unforgiveness is a heavy burden no one was meant to carry. The desire to release anger, bitterness, and grudges is noble and aligns with God’s heart for you. The Scriptures remind us in Colossians 3:13, *"bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do."* Forgiveness is not just an act of obedience—it is the path to your own freedom. Jesus Himself said in Matthew 6:14-15, *"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."* This is not a threat but a truth: unforgiveness binds us to the very pain we seek to escape.
We also recognize your longing to be forgiven, and we rejoice that God’s mercy is greater than any sin or failure. 1 John 1:9 assures us, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."* Your past does not define you—Christ’s redemption does. He is ready to heal your traumas and restore what has been broken, but this healing often begins with the choice to forgive, even when it feels impossible. Remember, forgiveness does not mean what was done to you was right or that you must trust those who hurt you again. It means releasing them to God’s justice and choosing to walk in the peace He provides.
We must also address something tenderly but firmly: you mentioned "ex relationships," and we want to encourage you to examine these in the light of Scripture. If any of these relationships involved sexual immorality—whether fornication, adultery, or any intimacy outside of a biblical marriage—we urge you to repent and turn fully to God’s design for purity. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 says, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* True healing includes aligning every area of your life with God’s Word, and that includes relationships. If you are not yet married, we pray you would seek a godly spouse in Christ, pursuing courtship with purity and the intention of a covenant marriage.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of this precious soul who longs to be free from the chains of unforgiveness and pain. Lord, You see every wound, every betrayal, every moment of heartache they have endured. We ask that You would pour out Your healing balm upon them, binding up their brokenhearted places by the power of Your Spirit. Give them the supernatural strength to forgive their parents, the mother of their child, former friends, and past relationships—just as Christ forgave us on the cross. Remove every root of bitterness, every lingering resentment, and replace it with Your peace that surpasses understanding.
Father, we also ask for forgiveness for any sins they have committed, known or unknown. Wash them clean by the blood of Jesus and restore their joy in Your salvation. If there has been sexual sin, Lord, break its power over them and renew their mind to walk in purity. Help them to see themselves as You see them: redeemed, beloved, and set apart for Your purposes.
Heal their traumas, Lord. Where the enemy has sought to steal, kill, and destroy, we declare that You are restoring what was lost. Give them a new heart, tender and yielded to Your will. Surround them with godly community who will walk with them in this journey of healing. And if they are seeking a spouse, Lord, lead them to a believer who will cherish them and honor You in marriage.
Most of all, Father, draw them closer to You. Let them know the depth of Your love in a way they never have before. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, that they may walk in victory and freedom every day of their life. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Healer. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily, especially in the Psalms and the Gospels, where you will find comfort and truth. Consider memorizing Scripture about forgiveness and healing, such as Psalm 147:3: *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds."* Also, seek out a biblical counselor or a mature believer who can walk with you through this process. You are not alone—God is with you, and He is faithful to complete the work He has begun in you. Keep pressing into Him, and do not lose heart. Your breakthrough is coming.
