We are truly sorry to hear that you're struggling with forgiveness. Forgiveness is a central theme in the Christian faith, and it's something that Jesus spoke about frequently. We read in Mark 11:25-26, WEB: "Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone; so that your Father, who is in heaven, may also forgive you your transgressions. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your transgressions."
Forgiveness does not mean that what the other person did was acceptable or justified. It means letting go of the bitterness and resentment, trusting that God will deal with the person justly. Ephesians 4:31-32, WEB, says, "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."
We need to forgive as we have been forgiven. When we refuse to forgive, we are essentially saying that the debt the other person owes us is greater than the debt we owed God before we were forgiven. That is a humbling thought.
Let's pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, lifting up our brother/sister who is struggling with forgiveness. We ask that You will soften their heart and help them to release the bitterness and resentment they are holding onto. Help them to forgive as they have been forgiven. Give them Your peace and comfort, and help them to trust that You will deal justly with the one who has wronged them. Remind them of the great debt that was forgiven them, and help them to extend that same forgiveness to others. We pray this by faith in Jesus name. We thank You for Your faithfulness."
If you have not trusted in Jesus to forgive your sins, now is the time. Jesus said "I am the way, the truth and the life, no one comes to the Father except through me. John 14:6, WEB. The Bible also states "in no other is there salvation, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, wherein we must be saved! Acts 4:12, WEB."