We hear the deep longing in your heart, and we understand the weight of your desire for marriage—a godly desire that reflects the very design of our Creator, who said, *"It is not good for the man to be alone"* (Genesis 2:18, WEB). Yet we must also address some concerns in your request with both truth and compassion, for God’s ways are higher than ours, and His timing is perfect, even when it feels delayed.
First, we rejoice with you in your job as an accountant—a provision from the Lord—and we praise Him for sustaining you. But we must gently rebuke the despair in your words, for they reveal a heart that has begun to demand rather than trust. To say, *"If not, God should take me away from this world"* or to suggest separating from your parents forever is not the voice of faith but of frustration. Such words do not align with Scripture, which calls us to *"be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God"* (Philippians 4:6, WEB). Even Jesus, in His agony, submitted to the Father’s will, saying, *"Not my will, but yours be done"* (Luke 22:42, WEB). We urge you to surrender this burden fully to Him, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).
We also must address your openness to marrying someone from another religion. The Bible is clear: *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). Marriage is not merely a union of two people but a covenant before God, and He commands His people to marry *"only in the Lord"* (1 Corinthians 7:39, WEB). To pursue a spouse outside of faith in Christ is to invite spiritual division into your home, your heart, and your future. Instead, we encourage you to seek a godly wife—a woman who fears the Lord, for *"a woman who fears Yahweh is to be praised"* (Proverbs 31:30, WEB). Beauty fades, but a heart devoted to Christ grows more precious with time.
As for your parents’ hesitation, we pray for their hearts to soften, but we also remind you to honor them, as Scripture commands (Ephesians 6:2-3). Their concerns may stem from love, even if misplaced. Rather than seeking to separate from them, ask God to reconcile your relationship and align your desires with His will.
Your loneliness is real, and we do not dismiss it. But we must warn you against the danger of rushing into marriage out of desperation, for *"it is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop than to share a house with a contentious woman"* (Proverbs 21:9, WEB). A hasty marriage can bring greater sorrow than singleness. Instead, we encourage you to cultivate contentment in Christ, who alone satisfies the deepest longings of the soul. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). This does not mean He will give you everything you want immediately, but that as you seek Him first, your desires will align with His perfect plan.
We also urge you to guard your heart against bitterness or resentment toward your parents or your circumstances. *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:31-32, WEB). Your struggle is an opportunity to grow in patience, trust, and dependence on God.
Finally, we must address the absence of Jesus’ name in your request. There is no other name by which we are saved, and no other name by which we can approach the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). It is only through Christ that our prayers are heard, and it is in His name that we boldly come before the throne of grace. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as Lord and Savior, we implore you to do so now. *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9, WEB). Without Him, no marriage, no relationship, and no earthly comfort will bring true peace.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother before You, knowing that You see his heart and his deep longing for companionship. Lord, You are the God who sets the lonely in families (Psalm 68:6), and we ask that You would provide a godly wife for him—a woman who loves You above all else, who will walk beside him in faith, and who will build a home that honors You. Remove from his heart any impatience or despair, and replace it with trust in Your perfect timing. Softening the hearts of his parents, Lord, that they may support him in a way that aligns with Your will. If there is any bitterness or frustration in him, we ask that You would cleanse it and fill him with Your peace that surpasses understanding.
Father, we rebuke the enemy’s lies that have sought to make him believe his worth is tied to his marital status. Remind him that his identity is in Christ alone—that he is Your beloved child, complete in You. If he has not yet fully surrendered to Jesus, we pray that today would be the day of salvation for him, that he would confess Christ as Lord and walk in the fullness of Your love.
Give him godly friendships, Lord, to ease his loneliness as he waits. Surround him with brothers and sisters in Christ who will encourage him and point him to You. Strengthen his body, mind, and spirit, and guard him against the temptation to compromise Your standards. May he find his joy in You first, knowing that You withhold no good thing from those who walk uprightly (Psalm 84:11).
We declare Your promises over his life, that You will satisfy him with good things and renew his youth like the eagle’s (Psalm 103:5). Prepare him to be the husband You have called him to be—a man of prayer, patience, and godly leadership. And prepare the heart of the woman You have chosen for him, that she may be ready when Your timing is perfect.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is our hope and our salvation. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture, to seek community in a Bible-believing church, and to serve others as you wait. God is not unaware of your longing—He is preparing you even now. *"Wait for Yahweh. Be strong and let your heart take courage. Yes, wait for Yahweh"* (Psalm 27:14, WEB). His plan for you is good, and He will fulfill it in His perfect time. Stay faithful. Stay hopeful. And above all, stay rooted in Christ.