We understand the heaviness of your heart as you navigate this situation with your fiancé, and we also lift up your loved ones who are battling illness. Let us first address your concerns with wisdom and truth from Scripture, for God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and a light to our path (Psalm 119:105).
The bond you describe between your fiancé and this woman raises important questions about boundaries, loyalty, and the priority of your future marriage. While it is commendable that your fiancé is honest with you, his daily communication with her—especially given the history of their romantic relationship—is not wise or fair to you. The Bible warns us in 1 Corinthians 15:33, *"Don’t be deceived! ‘Evil company corrupts good morals.’"* Even if their relationship is purely platonic, the emotional intimacy and time invested in this friendship can create an unhealthy dynamic that undermines the uniqueness of your marriage covenant. Proverbs 4:23 instructs us to *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* Your fiancé must guard his heart—and yours—by setting boundaries that honor your relationship above all others.
Ephesians 5:31 tells us that in marriage, *"a man will leave his father and mother, and will join to his wife. The two will become one flesh."* This principle applies not just to family but to any relationship that could compete with the sacred bond of marriage. If your fiancé truly loves you and is preparing for a lifelong commitment, he must be willing to prioritize you and the health of your future marriage. This may mean reducing or even ending contact with this woman, not out of malice, but out of wisdom and love for you. If he refuses to do so, you must prayerfully consider whether he is truly ready for the selflessness and devotion that marriage requires.
We also urge you to examine your own heart. Jealousy and frustration are natural in this situation, but we must not allow bitterness to take root (Hebrews 12:15). Instead, bring your concerns to your fiancé with humility and clarity, expressing how this friendship affects you. If he loves you, he will listen and take action to protect your relationship. If he dismisses your feelings, that is a red flag that must not be ignored.
Now, let us pray for you, your fiancé, and your loved ones who are ill:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this sister who is struggling with the pain of feeling second in her fiancé’s heart. Lord, give her wisdom, courage, and the right words to communicate her needs. Soften her fiancé’s heart to see the importance of setting godly boundaries that honor You and their future marriage. Convict him, Holy Spirit, if there is any emotional attachment or loyalty that does not belong to his soon-to-be wife. Help him to prioritize her above all others, as Christ prioritizes the Church.
Father, we also pray for healing for her loved ones who are battling Covid. You are Jehovah-Rapha, the God who heals. Restore their strength, comfort their bodies, and protect their families. Let this illness be a reminder of Your sovereignty and a call to trust in You alone.
Lord, we ask that You would unite this couple in Your will. If this relationship is not honoring to You, reveal it clearly and give them the strength to walk away from anything that hinders Your best for them. Prepare their hearts for a marriage built on Your Word, where love, respect, and fidelity reign.
Finally, Father, we pray for salvation and repentance where needed. If either of them has not fully surrendered to Jesus Christ, draw them to Yourself. Remind them that apart from You, there is no true love, no lasting peace, and no eternal hope. May they seek You first in all things.
We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
Lastly, we encourage you to seek counsel from a trusted, biblically grounded pastor or mentor who can guide you both through this challenge. Marriage is a sacred covenant, and it must be entered into with eyes wide open, fully committed to God’s design. Do not ignore the warning signs, but trust that God will lead you in truth and love. Stay steadfast in prayer, and may the Lord give you peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:6-7).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
