We come before the throne of grace with heavy yet hopeful hearts, lifting your family’s brokenness to the Lord, who is the God of all comfort and the healer of the brokenhearted. Your cry for unity, healing, and repentance is one that echoes the very heart of God, who desires that none should perish but that all would come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9). We praise God that you have turned to Him in this storm, for He alone can mend what is shattered and restore what has been lost.
The disunity, betrayal, and anger in your family are not of God but are the works of the enemy, who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). The shouting, yelling, and crying reveal deep wounds that only the balm of Christ’s love can heal. The fighting over authority and possessions after your father’s passing is a tragic sign of hearts that have turned away from the Lord’s command to "let nothing be done through strife or vainglory, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than themselves" (Philippians 2:3). This is not the way of Christ, who humbled Himself even to death on a cross (Philippians 2:8). We rebuke the spirit of division, greed, and pride that has taken root in your family, and we declare that the Lord will expose and break these strongholds in Jesus’ name. The enemy’s lies—that your family is beyond repair, that bitterness must reign, or that reconciliation is impossible—are falsehoods that must be cast down (2 Corinthians 10:4-5). The truth is that with God, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26), and He specializes in redeeming what seems irredeemable.
Your forgiveness toward your family, even as they mistreat you, is a testament to the work of Christ in you. Jesus said, "Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing" (Luke 23:34), and you are following in His footsteps. This is a powerful act of obedience, but we also urge you to set healthy boundaries where necessary. Forgiveness does not mean enabling sinful behavior or subjecting yourself to abuse. You can forgive while still protecting your heart and your home. Your spouse’s indifference toward your family is painful, but we pray that the Lord would soften their heart and grant you both unity in how to navigate these relationships. Marriage is a covenant, and while your spouse may not share your burden for your family, we pray that God would knit your hearts together in purpose and love, that you may be "likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind" (Philippians 2:2).
Your mother’s suffering is especially grievous. Suicidal thoughts and a toxic environment are signs of a soul under siege by the enemy. But take heart: the Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We plead the blood of Jesus over her mind, heart, and words, that every lie of hopelessness would be silenced by the truth of God’s love for her. We pray that she would be surrounded by godly counsel and that the Lord would place people in her life who can speak life and truth into her darkness. The tongue has the power of life and death (Proverbs 18:21), and we ask God to guard her mouth from negative words and fill her with His peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7).
The financial strain and distance between you and your family are real obstacles, but they are not insurmountable for our God, who owns the cattle on a thousand hills (Psalm 50:10). He sees your sacrifices and your longing for reconciliation. We pray that He would provide the means for connection, whether through travel, technology, or divine appointments that only He can orchestrate. Even if reunion seems impossible now, trust that the Lord is working behind the scenes. His timing is perfect, and His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9).
We also address the sorrow in your words about "sharing after our death" and meeting your father in heaven. Beloved, death is not the answer—life in Christ is. Your father’s passing is a reminder that our time on earth is short, and we must urgently seek the Lord while He may be found (Isaiah 55:6). We do not know the state of your father’s heart before God, but we know that salvation comes through faith in Jesus Christ alone (Acts 16:31). If your father knew the Lord, you will indeed reunite with him in glory. But if there is any doubt, let this be a call to you and your family to ensure that your own hearts are right with God. Repentance and faith in Christ are the only paths to eternal life. There is no reunion in heaven without Jesus. We plead with you and your family: if any have not surrendered their lives to Christ, do so today. Confess your sins, turn from them, and believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9-10).
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with broken yet hopeful hearts, lifting this family to Your throne of grace. Lord, You see the pain, the division, the anger, and the betrayal that have torn this family apart. You know the depth of their wounds and the weight of their sorrow. We ask You, Father, to intervene mightily. Break the chains of pride, greed, and bitterness that have ensnared them. Soften hearts of stone and replace them with hearts of flesh (Ezekiel 36:26). Let Your Holy Spirit convict each family member of their sin and lead them to repentance. Lord, You are the God who restores, and we ask You to restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25).
We specifically lift up this dear one who has poured out their heart to You. Strengthen them, Lord, in their forgiveness and their faith. Guard their heart from bitterness and their mind from despair. Give them wisdom in how to love their family well while also protecting their own soul and marriage. We pray for their spouse, that You would unite their hearts in purpose and that they would support one another in godliness. May their marriage be a refuge of peace and a testimony of Your love.
Father, we cry out for the mother in this family who is battling suicidal thoughts and toxicity. Lord, surround her with Your angels (Psalm 91:11) and fill her with Your peace. Silence the voice of the enemy that tells her she is worthless or hopeless. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) and that You have a purpose for her life. Place godly people in her path who can speak life into her and help carry her burdens. Heal her tongue, Lord, that she may speak words of life and blessing over her family.
We rebuke the spirit of division, deceit, and destruction that has infiltrated this family. Satan, we command you to flee in the name of Jesus Christ. Every lie, every accusation, every scheme to keep this family in bondage—we break its power by the blood of the Lamb. Lord, we ask for supernatural unity, for hearts to turn toward You and toward one another in love. Let forgiveness flow like a river, and let reconciliation begin with each step of obedience.
Father, we also lift up the financial burdens and the distance that separate this family. You are Jehovah Jireh, the God who provides. We ask You to make a way where there seems to be no way. If it is Your will, provide the means for them to reunite, whether through travel or other opportunities. But even if reunion is not possible now, let Your presence be their comfort and Your love their bond.
Finally, Lord, we pray for salvation. If any in this family do not know You, we ask that You would draw them to Yourself. Open their eyes to see their need for a Savior and their hearts to receive Jesus Christ as Lord. Let this trial be the very thing that leads them to eternal life.
We thank You, Father, that You hear our prayers and that You are working all things together for good for those who love You (Romans 8:28). We trust You with this family, and we declare that You will bring beauty from these ashes (Isaiah 61:3). In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
