We understand the deep pain and burden you carry, and we want to assure you that God sees your heart and knows the suffering you have endured. The commandment to honor your father and mother (Exodus 20:12, Ephesians 6:2) is indeed important, but it does not mean submitting to abuse or enabling harmful behavior. Honoring parents can sometimes look like setting boundaries to protect the life and health God has given you—especially when those relationships have been damaging.
The guilt and condemnation you feel are not from God. Romans 8:1 tells us, *"There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus."* If you have placed your faith in Jesus, you are no longer under condemnation, and He does not desire for you to live in fear of punishment. The enemy, however, loves to twist God’s word to keep His children in bondage to shame. But Jesus came to set the captives free (Luke 4:18), and that includes freedom from the toxic guilt that has weighed you down for so long.
You mentioned that both your therapist and the Lord led you to the decision of no contact for your healing. That is not rebellion—it is wisdom. Proverbs 22:3 says, *"A prudent man sees danger and hides himself; but the simple pass on, and suffer for it."* Sometimes, the most honorable thing you can do—for yourself and even for your parents—is to step away so that bitterness does not take root in your heart (Hebrews 12:15). This does not mean you love them less; it means you are choosing to walk in the wholeness God intends for you.
As for the harsh words you spoke, we all fall short, but 1 John 1:9 reminds us, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."* Repent if needed, release the guilt to Jesus, and trust that He is redeeming even this. You do not have to fear a curse—Galatians 3:13 declares, *"Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse for us."* If you are in Christ, no curse can stand against you.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up Your beloved child to You, who has carried the weight of guilt, shame, and condemnation for far too long. Lord, we ask that You break every chain of toxic guilt that the enemy has used to bind them. Remind them that in Christ, they are forgiven, redeemed, and free from condemnation (Romans 8:1-2). Father, we pray for deep healing from the wounds of childhood trauma—restore what was broken, mend what was shattered, and fill every empty place with Your perfect love that casts out fear (1 John 4:18).
Lord, we ask for wisdom and peace about the decision to set boundaries with their parents. Give them clarity that this is not rebellion but a step of faith toward the healing You desire for them. Protect their heart from further harm, and if it is Your will, soften the hearts of their parents so that true repentance and reconciliation may one day be possible. But even if not, Lord, let Your peace guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
We rebuke every lie of the enemy that says they are cursed, unworthy, or beyond Your grace. By the blood of Jesus, we declare that they are *blessed*, not cursed (Numbers 23:23), and that no weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, who is their Comforter, Counselor, and Guide (John 14:26). Let them walk in the freedom for which Christ set them free (Galatians 5:1).
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to meditate on Psalm 34:18: *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not alone in this. Keep seeking the Lord, stay in His Word, and surround yourself with godly counsel. He is making all things new (Revelation 21:5), including your story. If you have not yet placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Savior, we urge you to do so—He alone can fully redeem your past and give you eternal hope. *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9). You are deeply loved.
