Julian B.G.
Humble Prayer Warrior
My mom and I are both Christians and have always gotten along well since I was small, but lately, we have been falling out. I am a 21 years old male and living with my parents, my mom is in her late forties. We both agreed that our relationship has deteriorated and has really sucked lately, speaking little to the other and no longer turning to the other, and agreed that we need to learn how to become friends and not just mother and son if we are to remain close in the future. But ever since then, we have only been getting more and more angry with each other, having a very heated argument once a week, with not enough time to recover and forgive before the next one hits - causing more and more separation between us. I am upset with my mother because of a lack of "trust in me" on her part, which hurts as I am a lot more responsible then most other guys my age, including those living on their own! I am also upset with her because I feel she is very judgemental over me, knit-picking at my tiniest flaws and mistakes, she will make a scene out of such things even in front of others, and will making feel as though she doesn't like me over such mistakes and flaws on my part. When I tell her this she just smiles and says "I am being ridiculous." She also has been hypocritical of me lately, she actually got angry at me when I was really worried over a situation I'm facing, basically saying she "did not want to hang out with me anymore, she couldn't t take it," instead of offering a comforting hand saying "It's going to be okay" - what I needed to hear from her! I felt this was highly hypocritical on her part as my mom is a worry wart over anything - Ask anyone! I am the opposite and show little worry, yet the moment I was having a breakdown over something I frankly think was still worth a breakdown - yeah i had the problem! My mom is mad at me for being now for not being very friendly with her lately, in truth I have been developing much resentment toward her lately and now resist her judgement and wisdom offered to me lately, Even worse, I have grown mean to her in public by giving her the cold shoulder in a group, and giving her sarcastic looks in public in order to push her away because my resentment of her is so visible even to me. I know that this is bad on my part, it's just I no longer want to be in a group setting with her anymore due to her constantly disappointing me lately and not being afraid to be angry with me in public, and I don't want that sh*t.
On a side note, my mother has never been good at making or keeping friends in her life! This past year I feel that I finally understand why - I think she really sucks at being a friend!
I have been praying to God about this to help me for a while now, I've apologized to God for my anger against her, yet I simply seems to be disliking and resenting her more and more every day lately instead of our relationship slowly cooling. Sometimes I wonder if this means God wants me to move out, but if I do move out, the last reason I want to do it is because I dislike my mother. Not long ago,we were great!
Please pray that the Lord will help our relationship to be strong again and to help me with my resentment of her. Thank-you. Please feel free to give advice here too if you have a good relationship with a mother-figure.
On a side note, my mother has never been good at making or keeping friends in her life! This past year I feel that I finally understand why - I think she really sucks at being a friend!
I have been praying to God about this to help me for a while now, I've apologized to God for my anger against her, yet I simply seems to be disliking and resenting her more and more every day lately instead of our relationship slowly cooling. Sometimes I wonder if this means God wants me to move out, but if I do move out, the last reason I want to do it is because I dislike my mother. Not long ago,we were great!
Please pray that the Lord will help our relationship to be strong again and to help me with my resentment of her. Thank-you. Please feel free to give advice here too if you have a good relationship with a mother-figure.
