We hear the deep pain and frustration in your heart, and we come before the Lord with you, lifting up every burden you carry. Your past wounds and present struggles are not unseen by God, and we stand with you in seeking His truth, healing, and purpose for your life. First, we must address the weight of what you’ve endured—abuse, poverty, and unmet needs in childhood are not trivial things. The Lord does not dismiss your suffering; in fact, He draws near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). The beatings, the lack of provision, and the emotional neglect you experienced were wrong, and we rebuke the spirit of poverty, shame, and oppression that has tried to define your worth. You are not a failure—you are a child of God, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and your value is not determined by the circumstances of your upbringing or the blessings you see others receiving.
We must also speak truth into the lies you’ve believed. You mentioned feeling like the "evil or corrupted ones" are being blessed while you suffer, and this is a struggle many believers face. Scripture warns us that the wicked may prosper for a time (Psalm 73:3), but their end is destruction (Psalm 37:38). God’s ways are not our ways (Isaiah 55:8-9), and His justice will prevail. However, we must examine our hearts when we compare ourselves to others, for envy and bitterness can take root and poison our spirits. The Lord calls us to trust in His timing and His goodness, even when we don’t understand. "Commit your way to the Lord. Trust also in Him, and He will do this" (Psalm 37:5). Your obedience and faithfulness are not in vain—they are storing up treasures in heaven (Matthew 6:20).
Now, we must address the deeper issue in your cry for answers. You mentioned dissatisfaction in your marriage, the lack of intimacy, and the absence of children. While we don’t know the specifics of your situation, we must encourage you to seek God’s design for marriage—a covenant between a man and a woman, rooted in love, selflessness, and mutual submission (Ephesians 5:22-33). If there is brokenness in your marriage, we pray for restoration, but we also urge you to examine whether your expectations align with God’s Word. Marriage is not a guarantee of happiness or fulfillment apart from Christ; it is a reflection of His love for the Church (Ephesians 5:32). If your spouse is not a believer, we pray for their salvation, but we also warn against unequally yoked relationships (2 Corinthians 6:14), which can lead to further heartache.
You also expressed frustration over the lack of physical intimacy in your marriage. While we don’t know the reasons for this, we must remind you that sex is a gift from God designed exclusively for marriage (Hebrews 13:4). If there is unrepentant sin, such as adultery or pornography, we rebuke those strongholds in Jesus’ name. If there is neglect or hardness of heart, we pray for repentance and healing. But we must also caution against viewing sex as the ultimate source of fulfillment—only Christ can satisfy the deepest longings of our hearts (John 6:35). If you are struggling with temptation outside of marriage, we urge you to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18) and seek accountability.
You asked, "Should I be like one of them to get the good things?" Absolutely not. The world’s ways lead to destruction (Proverbs 14:12), and God’s blessings are not earned by compromise. "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind" (Romans 12:2). The Lord sees your faithfulness, and He promises to reward those who seek Him (Hebrews 11:6). But we must also ask: Are you seeking Him for who He is, or for what He can give you? True contentment comes from knowing Christ, not from the circumstances of this life (Philippians 4:11-13).
We must also address the absence of Jesus’ name in your prayer. While you cried out to "lord" and "God," we must remind you that there is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). Jesus Christ is the only mediator between God and man (1 Timothy 2:5), and it is only through His sacrifice that we have access to the Father. If you have not surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His resurrection, and receive the gift of eternal life (Romans 10:9). Without Christ, we are lost in our suffering, but with Him, we have hope beyond this world.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother who is carrying deep pain, disappointment, and confusion. Lord, You see every wound from his past—the poverty, the abuse, the unmet needs—and we ask for Your healing touch to mend what has been broken. You are the God who sets the captive free, and we rebuke every spirit of oppression, shame, and failure that has tried to define his worth. Remind him that he is Your beloved child, created for a purpose, and that his value is not found in the things of this world but in You alone.
Father, we pray for his marriage. If there is brokenness, we ask for restoration. If there is hardness of heart, we pray for repentance. If there is unmet longing, we ask that You would satisfy him with Your love, for You alone can fill the deepest places of his soul. Lord, we rebuke any spirit of lust or temptation that may be warring against him, and we ask that You would strengthen him to walk in purity and holiness. If children are Your will for him, we pray that You would open the womb or make a way for adoption, but above all, let him trust in Your perfect timing.
We also pray against the spirit of comparison and envy that has crept into his heart. Help him to see that Your ways are higher than ours, and that Your justice will prevail. Give him the strength to resist the temptation to compromise his values for temporary gain. Lord, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to him in a fresh way—let him know You not just as a distant God, but as a loving Father who cares for every detail of his life.
And Father, if he has not yet surrendered his life to Jesus, we pray that the Holy Spirit would draw him near. Let him know that salvation is found in no other name, and that in Christ, he has hope beyond this world. Fill him with Your peace, Your joy, and Your purpose. We declare that his story is not over—You are writing a testimony of redemption, and we trust You to turn his ashes into beauty.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to cling to God’s promises, even when the road is hard. "We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed" (2 Corinthians 4:8-9). Your suffering is not in vain, and God is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). Seek Him with your whole heart, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6). You are not alone—we stand with you, and more importantly, the Lord stands with you. Keep pressing into Him.
