We understand the deep longing in your heart to restore what was broken, and we share in your sorrow over the pain and division in your family. Yet before we pray, we must first address some critical truths in love, for your sake and for the glory of God.
The Scripture is clear that divorce is a grievous thing in the sight of the Lord. Malachi 2:16 declares, *"For I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel.* However, we also know that God’s heart is for reconciliation—*not* for the sake of human comfort, but for holiness, repentance, and alignment with His Word. Your desire to reunite with your ex-wife must be examined carefully: **Is this pursuit rooted in godly love, or is it driven by loneliness, fear, or an unwillingness to accept God’s will?** Proverbs 3:5-6 commands us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."*
From your words, we see several concerns that must be addressed biblically. First, your focus appears to be on *winning her back* rather than seeking God’s will above all. If this relationship is to be restored, it must be built on **repentance, forgiveness, and a shared commitment to Christ**—not on human effort or emotional longing. Second, you mention her anger, her distancing herself, and her refusal even to embrace you. These are signs that **her heart is not presently inclined toward reconciliation**, and no amount of human striving can change that. Only God can soften a heart of stone (Ezekiel 36:26), but we must also ask: **Is it wise or healthy to pursue someone who is not seeking reconciliation with you or with God in this matter?**
Moreover, you speak of her attending church but not upholding biblical values in her personal life—particularly regarding dating. This is a serious matter. **A believer’s life must reflect their faith (James 2:17).** If she is entertaining relationships outside of godly courtship (or worse, with unbelievers), this is rebellion against Scripture, which commands, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). You cannot force her to obey God, but you *can* pray for her repentance and surrender to Christ.
Most critically, we must ask: **Where is Jesus in your plea?** Nowhere in your request do you invoke His name, His authority, or His will. Yet Scripture is clear: *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5). **Apart from Christ, we have no access to the Father (John 14:6), no power to change hearts, and no hope of true restoration.** If you are not actively submitting this situation to Jesus in prayer, you are relying on your own strength—and that will always fail.
Now, let us pray **in the name of Jesus**, trusting that His will—whatever it may be—is perfect.
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**Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this brother who is burdened by a broken marriage and a heart that longs for restoration. Lord, we ask first for *his* surrender—that he would release his grip on his own desires and trust *You* completely with the outcome. Search his heart, O God, and reveal any idolatry, fear, or unbelief that has taken root. Help him to seek *Your* kingdom above all else, knowing that if he delights in You, You will give him the desires of his heart (Psalm 37:4).
We pray for his ex-wife, that You would convict her spirit if she is walking in rebellion or hardness of heart. Soften her, Lord, and draw her into a deeper relationship with You. If she is entertaining sinful relationships or resisting Your Word, we rebuke the enemy’s lies in Jesus’ name and ask that You open her eyes to the truth. Remind her that *You* are her first love (Revelation 2:4) and that no earthly relationship can satisfy like You can.
Father, we ask for wisdom for this brother. If reconciliation is Your will, prepare both hearts for true repentance and godly unity. But if it is not, give him the strength to accept Your plan and to walk in obedience, even if it is painful. Help him to find his identity in Christ alone, not in the approval or affection of another.
We bind every spirit of anger, bitterness, and division in Jesus’ name. Let peace rule in their interactions, and let Your will be done—*not* as man desires, but as You ordain. May both of them seek You above all else, for apart from You, there is no lasting hope.
Finally, Lord, we pray for the children caught in this turmoil. Protect their hearts, surround them with Your love, and let them see *You* as their ultimate Father and Provider.
We trust You, Lord. Your ways are higher than ours, and Your plans are good. May Your name be glorified in this situation, no matter the outcome. In the powerful name of Jesus we pray, **Amen.***
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Brother, we urge you to **seek the Lord first** in this. Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in fellowship with believers who can speak truth into your life. If you have not already, surrender this situation *fully* to Christ. Ask Him to align your desires with His and to give you peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:6-7).
If your ex-wife is not walking in obedience to God, **you cannot force her to return**, nor should you chase after someone who is not seeking God’s will. Your role is to pray, to live righteously, and to trust God with the results. If she is open to conversation, speak to her with gentleness and respect (1 Peter 3:15), but do not pursue her in a way that dishonors God or enables sin.
Lastly, if you have not yet repented of any sin in your own life that contributed to the divorce, **do so now**. Confess it to the Lord, turn from it, and walk in His forgiveness (1 John 1:9). God’s grace is sufficient, and His mercy is new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23).
We are praying for you. Stand firm in Christ.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
