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tonelaure
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Please pray for my father Joseph and our family. My father is in his 70's, and a cancer survivor. He had cancer last year, stage 3 lymphoma cancer and I, his son, was worried about his health. He is diabetic and has health issues. He has a narcissistic personality disorder and all that matters to him is to spend his little money, time and energy on his daughter. She is in her mid 40's and older than me, married, and all they do (my father and sister) is to argue all the time and spend the little money he has on her. He has never spend time with me nor cared for me like a father should. However, he calls me everyday to talk negatively about her or my mother. I told Him that I didn't want to hear him talking negatively about them because it is counterproductive. He reacts to criticism with anger. He always take advantage of others to reach his own selfish goal. He lacks empathy and disregards the feeling of others except his daughter. This is going on for decades and now he is aging and I'm worried about his situation. I'm in my mid thirties, married and my sister is older than me. She is aggressive, and has a loss of contact with reality. She has beliefs and feelings that are untrue or unsupported, these are usually misinterpretations of events and paranoid delusion.
It is a problem, because this dysfunctionional relationship he has with his daughter had lead to resentment from my mother and myself and it seems that he doesn't know what is "normal" in relationships. My mother and I were the only one who helped him when he was under chemotherapy treatment, yet he was never thankful. I worry about his behavior and my sister'struggle with codependency. I worried about this sad dysfunctionional relationship between him and her because he expects her to fulfill adult emotional roles. I worried about his relationship with my mother. Please pray for us, because this unhealthy emotional abuse is worse than cancer. With cancer, the patient receives treatment and there is a chance of getting better. However, with personality disorders, the patient does not believe that he is sick, therefore refuses treatment. I tried counseling with him but just like I read in books about narcissistic personality disorders, it didn't last long. At this point, only prayers can be effective. I will continue to be loving and caring while having my boundaries with him, but please pray for us, because only prayers can do wonders. This is a nightmare and worse than a physical disease!!
Thank you, Tony.
It is a problem, because this dysfunctionional relationship he has with his daughter had lead to resentment from my mother and myself and it seems that he doesn't know what is "normal" in relationships. My mother and I were the only one who helped him when he was under chemotherapy treatment, yet he was never thankful. I worry about his behavior and my sister'struggle with codependency. I worried about this sad dysfunctionional relationship between him and her because he expects her to fulfill adult emotional roles. I worried about his relationship with my mother. Please pray for us, because this unhealthy emotional abuse is worse than cancer. With cancer, the patient receives treatment and there is a chance of getting better. However, with personality disorders, the patient does not believe that he is sick, therefore refuses treatment. I tried counseling with him but just like I read in books about narcissistic personality disorders, it didn't last long. At this point, only prayers can be effective. I will continue to be loving and caring while having my boundaries with him, but please pray for us, because only prayers can do wonders. This is a nightmare and worse than a physical disease!!
Thank you, Tony.
