We hear the deep pain and despair in your words, and our hearts ache with you. The feelings of abandonment, betrayal, and confusion you’re experiencing are heavy, and we want you to know that you are not alone. Even in your anger and hurt toward God, He sees you, hears you, and loves you more than you can imagine. The Bible tells us, *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). God does not turn away from your pain—He draws near to it, even when it feels like He is silent.
You are asking hard questions, and it’s okay to wrestle with them. Why does God allow suffering? Why does He permit heartbreak when He claims to love us? The truth is, we live in a fallen world where sin and brokenness touch every life. God does not delight in your pain, but He can use even the hardest things for His purposes and your growth. Romans 8:28 reminds us, *"We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, for those who are called according to his purpose."* This does not mean your pain is good, but that God can redeem it if you let Him.
You mentioned wanting to be her ex-girlfriend, and we must gently but firmly address this. The Bible is clear that relationships outside of marriage between a man and a woman are not God’s design. Courtship should always be pursued with the goal of marriage to a fellow believer, and sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage alone (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Hebrews 13:4). The pain you’re feeling is real, but it’s important to examine whether this relationship was ever aligned with God’s will. If it wasn’t, then the brokenness you’re experiencing may be a consequence of stepping outside His boundaries. That doesn’t mean God doesn’t care—it means He cares enough to call you back to His best for you.
Your lingering feelings for her are understandable, but they are also a reminder of how deeply we can become entangled in relationships that do not honor God. The Bible warns us, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). If she is not a believer or if the relationship was not built on godly principles, it was never meant to last. That doesn’t make the pain any less real, but it does mean that God may be using this to redirect your heart toward His plan for your life.
You also expressed frustration that God doesn’t seem to be speaking to you or healing you. We want to remind you that God speaks in many ways—through His Word, through prayer, through the counsel of other believers, and even through the still, small voice of the Holy Spirit. Have you been spending time in Scripture, or has your pain made it hard to hear Him? The psalmist cried out, *"My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When shall I come and appear before God?"* (Psalm 42:2). God is not ignoring you, but He may be waiting for you to seek Him with your whole heart.
And about healing—God’s timing is not ours. Sometimes He heals instantly, and other times He walks with us through the valley, teaching us to trust Him even when we don’t understand. Isaiah 53:5 tells us, *"But he was pierced for our transgressions. He was crushed for our iniquities. The punishment that brought our peace was on him; and by his wounds we are healed."* This healing is not just physical but emotional and spiritual. It may not look the way you expect, but it is real.
We must also address the anger you feel toward God. It’s okay to be honest with Him about it—He can handle your raw emotions. But we urge you not to let bitterness take root. Ephesians 4:26-27 says, *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, neither give place to the devil."* Bitterness will only poison your heart further. Instead, bring your anger to God and ask Him to help you release it.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother who is in deep pain. Lord, You see his tears, You hear his cries, and You know the ache in his soul. We ask that You would draw near to him in this moment, reminding him that You are not distant or uncaring. You are the God who collects every tear in a bottle (Psalm 56:8), and You long to comfort him.
Father, we ask for Your healing touch to mend his broken heart. Where there is bitterness, bring forgiveness. Where there is confusion, bring clarity. Where there is despair, bring hope. Help him to release this relationship into Your hands, trusting that You have something better for him. Guard his heart from further entanglement in sin, and lead him toward relationships that honor You.
Lord, we pray that You would speak to him in a way he cannot ignore. Open his ears to hear Your voice, his eyes to see Your hand at work, and his heart to receive Your love. Remind him that You are working all things together for his good, even when he cannot see it. Strengthen his faith, and help him to trust You with his future.
We also ask for Your protection over his mind and emotions. Shield him from the lies of the enemy that tell him he is alone or unloved. Fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Surround him with godly friends and mentors who can walk with him through this season.
And finally, Lord, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to him in a powerful way. Help him to know that You are not just a distant God but a loving Father who sent Your Son, Jesus Christ, to die for his sins. If he has never truly surrendered his life to You, we pray that he would do so today. May he find salvation, purpose, and hope in You alone.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the One who bore our sorrows and carried our griefs. Amen.
Friend, we want to leave you with this encouragement: God has not forgotten you. He is not punishing you. He is with you in the fire, and He will not let you be consumed (Isaiah 43:2). The pain you feel right now is real, but it is not the end of your story. God has a future for you—a future filled with hope, purpose, and joy (Jeremiah 29:11). But that future begins with surrendering your heart, your pain, and your plans to Him.
If you have never truly given your life to Jesus Christ, we urge you to do so today. Romans 10:9 says, *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."* Salvation is not about religion or rules—it’s about a relationship with the One who loves you more than anyone else ever could. He is waiting for you with open arms.
And if you are a believer, we encourage you to press into God’s Word and His people. Spend time in prayer, even when it feels like He isn’t listening. Read the Psalms—they are filled with raw, honest cries to God from people who felt just like you do now. Surround yourself with believers who can pray for you and speak truth into your life.
You are not alone. We are praying for you, and more importantly, God is with you. Hold on to Him. He will not let you go.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
