We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this situation in prayer. Marriage is a sacred covenant, established by God from the beginning, as it is written in Genesis 2:24, "Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh." The Lord hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), not because He desires suffering, but because He designed marriage to reflect His unchanging, faithful love for His people. We grieve with you over the brokenness in this union, and we stand with you in seeking God’s will for restoration.
First, we must examine our own hearts before the Lord. Have we fully surrendered this marriage to Him? Are we willing to humble ourselves, repent of any sin, and seek His wisdom rather than our own desires? James 4:6 reminds us, "But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, 'God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.'" Reconciliation begins with humility—before God and before our spouse. We pray that both of you would soften your hearts toward the Lord and toward one another, laying down pride, bitterness, and unforgiveness.
Father, we ask You to intervene in this marriage. Soften the heart of this spouse who is pursuing divorce. Break down the walls of hardness, resentment, or fear that may have taken root. Replace them with Your peace, Your truth, and a desire for reconciliation. We declare that nothing is impossible for You (Luke 1:37), and we ask You to do what only You can do—restore what has been broken. Give this husband wisdom, patience, and the right words to speak life into this situation. May he walk in love, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her (Ephesians 5:25), even when it is difficult.
We also rebuke any spirit of division, unforgiveness, or rebellion against God’s design for marriage. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but we stand on the promise that Jesus came to give life abundantly. We declare that this marriage is covered by the blood of Jesus, and we command every plan of the enemy to fail in Jesus’ name. If there has been sin—whether unfaithfulness, neglect, or hardness of heart—we pray for genuine repentance and healing. Confession and forgiveness are the pathways to restoration (1 John 1:9).
If this spouse is unwilling to reconcile, we entrust her to Your care, Lord. We pray that she would encounter Your love in a way that draws her back to You and, if it is Your will, back to her husband. But we also pray for this man’s heart to be guarded. If reconciliation is not Your plan, give him the strength to release her with grace and to trust You with his future. Psalm 34:18 assures us, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."
We encourage you to seek godly counsel—pastors, mentors, or Christian counselors who can walk with you through this season. Proverbs 11:14 says, "Where there is no counsel, the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." Do not isolate yourself in this pain. Lean on the body of Christ, and allow others to pray with you and support you.
Above all, we pray that this trial would draw you closer to Jesus. May you find your identity, your hope, and your strength in Him alone. He is the God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). No matter the outcome, He is faithful, and His plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11).
Lord, we lift up this marriage to You now. We ask for a miracle—one that only You can perform. Soften hearts, restore love, and rebuild what has been torn down. If it is Your will, bring reconciliation that glorifies Your name. If not, give this man the grace to walk in faith, trusting You with every step. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who makes all things new. Amen.