Division In Family

[Susan]

My daughter is going to the court house tomorrow to marry her boyfriend. She is 5 months pregnant. They have been living together for nearly a year and kept it a secret from the whole family. We are against the marriage and do not want to be part of it, yet are torn over losing our daughter over it. She has put us through much trauma since the age of 15. She became a single mom at 18 and because of our support was able to graduate from college and has a full time job. Her "fiance" is just beginning community college, does not have a job, is divorced and has two daughters who he hardly ever sees. My granddaughter, who is 8, was told not to tell us that they were living together. They say they are Christian and attend church, but I do not see the fruit. Our family is seriously divided over this issue. I don't see how I can accept him as my son-in -law or continue in a relationship with my daughter who has seriously hurt us time and time again. I don't even know how to pray. Our family has been dealing with her issues for 12 years. Is it time to let her go and walk away?

 

[JerseyLady732@aol.com]

I lift both you and your daughter up to Christ. Your daughter has an 8 year old child, so she knows what

being a mother is all about. We must stand by our children, even if we think they are wrong. To give them

the love and support they need. Feel good that your daughter is going to church. She wants to start a new

life with love. This fellow needs to find a job. Going to school to educate yourself is always a good thing.

If your daughter is going to get married and your not there you might live to regret it. I ask God to give

you the wisdom to do the right thing. We as christians are not supposed to judge. Your daughter and her

boyfriend could very well be richly in love. Don't desert your daughter. Amen